Gemini Man Hot And Cold — Why Are Geminis So Cold?

by Anna Kovach, relationship astrologer
Are you dating a Gemini and wondering why is Gemini man so cold when it comes to love? Here are the things that could be causing your Gemini man hot and cold behaviour.

Hello, gorgeous! So you’ve set your sights on a Gemini man, but you have noticed that he tends to blow hot and cold. You might be wondering why is your Gemini man acting weird? One minute they’re all over you, the next you never hear from them for days.

What is up with the Gemini man hot and cold behavior? It is so frustrating because all you probably want to do is move forward with him, but when you check again, it feels like you’re only going backwards.

Why are Gemini men so cold? It can be very confusing to try to understand this phenomenon. What a nightmare!

But don’t worry, you have come to the right place, and I can put your mind at ease and make you understand why this happens and what you need to do about it.

So if you’re curious to find out why a Gemini man would do this, then keep reading to find out more. I promise you’ll understand what to do next.

Why Are Gemini Men So Hot And Cold?

A Gemini man is a curious individual with an active and versatile mind. He grounds himself with information and facts. He likes to communicate, but he also shifts with the current.

Sometimes they are carefree and playful; other times they are a bit pragmatic and restrained. One day he could be infatuated by you, and the next day this feeling starts to fade away, so you’ll never know where you stand with him.

The Gemini man is highly adaptable, and this can trick you into believing he is warm and engaging but soon becomes distant and not interested.

This is because he enjoys the thrill of the chase and the excitement of new relationships. However, once he is overwhelmed by the intensity of his emotions, a Gemini man may quickly lose interest and pull back.

Being with a Gemini man will seriously keep you on your toes, so if you are highly adaptable and looking for adventure, then this is definitely the right man for you!

Gemini Man Acting Weird — 6 Possible Reasons Of Gemini Man Hot And Cold Behaviour

1. He Has Mood Swings

Always remember that the Gemini man has mood swings. He is, after all, the “twin” of the Zodiac. He is one way one day and then different on another day. That means that he could be hot one day and then cold the next.

A Gemini man giving mixed signals is something that you always have to consider. He can change moods at any time on any day and make him seem interested or not so interested. This can and will play a huge role in the mood of a Gemini man.

It’s always really important to fully get to know your Gemini guy before you make any assumptions. In fact, it may help your relationship succeed if you get to know what Gemini men are really like.

2. He Doesn’t Have The Time For Himself

Gemini men are typically very busy guys. They want to keep their brains stimulated and avoid boredom, as I’ve mentioned in other articles. So, between his successful career, passion projects, side jobs, extra hustles, social obligations, and random interests, the Gemini man is in high demand. 

If he’s acting hot and cold, he may need help balancing out his busy schedule. 

He also likes lots of alone time. He wants to do his own thing and not feel like someone is trying to put a damper on his fun or on his career choices. He will do what he has to in order to find some “separation”.

It’s not that he wants to break up per se, but he may want time to himself that you don’t question. He may want a break from having to text you every single day. He wants out of that routine.

Gemini men really don’t like routine, nor do they want to plan their lives minute by minute. Making plans with him is a dicey proposition because he may change his mind and duck out or he may want to do something else.

This can be really frustrating, so if you give him some space to do his own thing, he’ll come back to you feeling refreshed, renewed, and ready to spend time with you.

If you want to learn more about a Gemini man’s love language, check it out here <<

3. He Might Not Be Ready For Something Serious

Gemini men like to take their time to build a relationship. They are often not commitment-oriented in the first place, but if they decide on taking that plunge, they want to make sure it’s someone they can rely on.

To really know if the person they are choosing is the right lady, he has to take his time. He’ll think things over, weigh his options, and try to make sure that he’s on the right track.

If you try to push him too quickly, he will likely start to clam up and pull back. He doesn’t want a woman who’s going to try to coax him into marriage, a deeper commitment, or getting too close if he isn’t ready.

The last thing he wants is to feel tied down before he’s ready. He also will not appreciate a woman who comes on too strong or displays clingy types of behavior. If he sees those signs, he will absolutely withdraw.

Interested in how to get your Gemini man to be more serious about you? <<

4. He Is Uncertain About You

If the two of you have been spending loads of time together; at some point, he’s going to start feeling closed in and possibly bored. There’s only so much you two can do together before you reach a point where you need to be apart.

Remember, Gemini men are independent and want an independent woman. He wants a mate that is going to actually go do her own thing and then come home to him when she’s done.

He wants that time apart and he wants you two to have friends separate from each other as well. Again, it’s not about being away from you because he isn’t into you.

It’s more that he’s getting bored or feeling stressed out. As you recall, I mentioned him avoiding boredom like the plague. While he may want to play house sometimes; he also wants to get away sometimes.

Try to spend time apart when you can and try to think of new and exciting things for you two to do when you are together again. He’ll appreciate all your effort and maybe be able to salvage the relationship.

Do something quick though because if he gets too bored; this may be when he decides to look elsewhere for entertainment or excitement. This could be in the arms of another woman or could head to a breakup.

5. He Has Difficulty Breaking Up

The Gemini man is another sign that really doesn’t like to be the bearer of bad news, nor does he want to be the bad guy. If a Gemini man wants to break up and hasn’t said it, he’ll show you.

He’ll disappear for gaps of time; he’ll make himself unavailable; he’ll stop calling; he’ll have a delay or won’t answer texts; he’ll change his social network status, etc.

Pay attention to these red flags because when he goes to lengths like this, it means he wants out or he’s close to wanting out. You may as well sit down with him and tell him what you’ve noticed and that you’d like to know where things stand.

Tell him how you feel about the relationship and where you’d like for things to go with him, and then ask him to be specific about how he feels and where he sees things going.

He may not want to answer you, but you’ll need to step up and tell him “I need to know where this is headed”. At that point, your Gemini should tell you he wants to break up, or he may suggest something to try to fix it.

6. He Is Dating Other People 

As a chatty air Zodiac sign, the charming Gemini man knows how to win over a crowd. His flirtatious nature often earns him a player like reputation. 

If a Gemini man is acting hot and cold, he may be seeing other people. Known for his lack of commitment and short-term flings, it can be challenging sometimes to keep a Gemini man’s interest. 

Even if he really likes you, Gemini men need to feel free in a relationship. Despite his feelings for you, he may choose to keep playing the field.

What To Do When A Gemini Man Blows Hot And Cold

It’s important for you to figure out where his head is and also his heart. If you don’t ask, then you won’t know, and then you’ll end up being more confused than ever when he does the hot and cold thing. Why is the Gemini man hot and cold? What is the reason behind this behavior?

Ask what his goals and future desires are. That gives you a glimpse of what he’s trying to accomplish with his life and his future. It also will show you whether or not you’re likely to join him in those plans.

Ask him if there is anything you can do to help him or offer him; he will think the world of you for being so entirely sweet. This helps him open up where he might not otherwise.

More tips on how to get a Gemini man to open up and share his true feelings <<

If he’s going through a hard time and you can tell but he’s not being verbal about it, you can tell him, “I noticed that you’re maybe having a hard time. If you need me to help with anything, I’m here.”

This gives him some security and stability that he may actually need from you. Offering it up will show him that he can rely on you and that he can actually talk to you.

Gemini Man Disappears After Intimacy — What Can You Do?

The Gemini man in general needs stimulation almost constantly in his life. His sex life is no different. He craves pleasure in new and innovative ways. This makes him open to trying new things and perhaps answers your question about why Gemini are so cold.

The thing is, he wants to do it all the time. The funny thing is that he talks a lot about sex but seems to not have much of it unless the right woman blows his mind in the sack.

If a Gemini man disappears after intimacy, avoid calling him and flooding his inbox with messages. He needs time to reflect on his emotions and thoughts.

However, if his disappearance has made you confused, you should communicate openly about it. Tell him how you feel, be calm, and ask him to explain his behavior. Don’t jump to conclusions and assume the worst!

If you want to keep him in a relationship with you alone, you had better be prepared to keep the fires burning in intimacy. When he becomes bored, he shuts off and would just rather not bother.

Why Would A Gemini Man Suddenly Disappear? And Will He Even Come Back?

Gemini men do not like to feel pressured or pushed into getting more serious than they are ready for. Then again, some Gemini jump right in if they are excited.

The Gemini man wants time to himself so he can breathe, focus on his creativity, work at his goals or projects, and just be himself without distraction, and this is why a Gemini man pulls away.

He wants to see his partner doing her own thing too. She should be able to spend time with friends or work on her own projects that may lead her to success in her path.

If you haven’t been giving him any time to himself, he will start to lose himself – which definitely will bring him down. It will cause him to pull back and not want to talk to you much.

When he’s not getting what he needs or wants, he pulls back and has to be lured back in. How do you do that? Be patient, give him freedom, be independent, and make life with you more exciting and adventurous.

Be patient and let the relationship go with the flow. When he’s ready to get more serious, he will come back!

No More Sleepless Nights About Your Gemini Man…

It can be SO painful to worry about how to make things work with a Gemini man who won’t commit. I know. I’ve been there with many of my friends dating Gemini guys.

I remember my very close friend crying herself to sleep at night, worried that her man would never commit to her. She lost sleep, time, and even work hours, all because she couldn’t figure out how to capture his heart and get him to commit.

As a friend, it was hard to watch her go through that. But I knew how good he was for her, and I didn’t want her to give up on him.

Even when our other friends were telling her to move on, I could see that he was the most incredible man she had ever met.

How could she just give up on that?

But it wasn’t easy. It took a LOT of work. She had to learn how to speak a different language…

Gemini man’s love language <<

And it worked!!

So if you are ready to sleep like a baby… Knowing your Gemini man is MADLY in love with you… And never feel anxious about him again…

>> Go here now to see how to speak your Gemini man’s love language. 

xoxo, Anna

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13 thoughts on “Gemini Man Hot And Cold — Why Are Geminis So Cold?

  1. I know a Gemini guy from past 4 years. At the beginning we were not friends but gradually he started showing interest in me and we became friends. Last few months he was very close to me, open to inform personal details and we used to chat regularly on instant messaging and after office. But every time I asked him to go put with me he gave some excuse and denied. Last month as we were chatting I again asked and he denied. From that day onwards he does not message me. He still speaks with me at office and sometimes is personal like before. I am not able to understand what’s the matter. When asked he said he is in no other relationship.

    1. If this guy is very masculine, he will be put off by a woman who is not mysterious (you have revealed too much about yourself) and is chasing him. I am pretty feminine and by default, don’t chase men. I was also with a Gemini guy who pretty much insisted that I do the chasing – calling him, planning dates etc. He even went as far as saying that “should have told him about my feelings” before we got together 0_0. Needless to say, I ended up leaving him.

  2. This is so spot on, it is crazy. I have known this Gemini guy for almost 30 years. He is exactly like this but unfortunately, I did not know this until it was too late!!! We started out as friends but he wanted to date me since we were teenagers and I finally gave him a chance 5 years ago. Before him, I had not dated anyone for 3 years and wanted to be in a serious relationship, which he knew. A few months after dating, I fell madly in love with him and started showing it and he told me he was not ready to be in a relationship! After time, I started noticing, telling him how I felt about him and us was what kept driving him away….even though he pursued me for 20 years!
    I am a Scorpio and when I am in love, I am very open about my feelings, serious about commitment and want to spend time with my guy. All of which are apparently a turn off for him.
    The last 5 years have been hell trying to get over him and move on (he will not let me and I have tried everything!) but I still love him. It has been 5 years and the only thing he is consistent about is being inconsistent and saying one thing and the next day saying or doing the opposite. I am in no way needy or want someone to be up under me all of the time but I absolutely need to know how someone feels about me and feel that security and he does not understand that, I do not think he knows the difference between clinginess and a genuine emotional connection. His flightiness drives me insane and makes me feel like he does not really love me like he says. I know him being a Gemini and fitting these traits to a T is just him being him, but I cannot understand how you claim to love someone but only show it sometimes and after 5 years still indecisive about if they want to be with you or not.
    Honestly, I wish I could invent a time machine and go back to the day that I decided to give him a chance and just stay friends. I am stuck in love with someone that treats me like they are madly in love with me one day and the next acts like they can take me or leave me. I do not know anyone woman that is cool with a ‘relationship’ like that whether they are compatible based on astrology signs or not.

    1. You are stuck in love with the person you want him to be not the selfish creep he really is.
      Have some self respect, ditch him, he does not care for you, he is dangling you on a string.Ignore his texts,ignore him, and if you still want him walk away. If he comes after you, as he surely will because he hates a taste of his own medicine tell him it marriage or nothing.
      Get out there, stop wasting your life. The possibility is that he is doing the same to another woman.
      Life is too short to waste in on a Gemini man.

  3. I have had one chasing me that found me on facebook. I finally relented and met him once last year. He was absent afterward. He later continued to pursue me for quite a while and after I gave him many excuses, he gave up. A few months afterward, he told me that he made a big mistake giving me up. We chatted off and on for about a month while he was on the road. When he got back, still I made excuses. I finally decided to see him and at least this time, he checked in with me via messenger, a little chatting back and forth and in less than a week, he hasn’t read my last couple of messages. I am not needy. I am definitely self-sufficient and don’t need a man to take care of me but I certainly don’t understand him coming on so strong and then disappearing again. I was willing to see him again and definitely didn’t expect it to be immediate. I have my own stuff going on but at this point, if he hits me up,, I feel like I am his last choice. I can’t understand him and don’t know him at all. Almost feel sorry for him. I don’t know what to do. I certainly won’t message him again. Don’t know if I will put myself through seeing him again. Unless, this is definitely normal for a gemini

    1. Honestly this is so spot on
      His up and down like a yoyo
      one minute his all over me wants me very sexual towards me very cute
      then he goes really cold and says his busy ect iv just had to block him as he ignored me about meeting I gave him two chances to tell me whats happening and he didn’t so I had to block him and I was gutted but its not fair on me I didn’t do it in a childish way tho and I also hope he seeks abit of help as his drinking a lot recently…
      his blocked me in the past and unblocked me because he felt under stress and he was sorry ect
      iv never met a man with such intense mood swings

      1. Hi Kathleen!

        Yes they do have mood swings. It’s important to find a formula that works with your Gemini man. If you know he’s being moody just simply try to put off any conversation you want to have until he’s in a better mood. You can also try to express things logically instead of emotionally. This may help him listen a whole lot better as well. Naturally if he’s being childish and unsettled then maybe he’s not the right one for you. Trust your gut and do what is right for yourself sweetheart!

  4. I am a Gemini and I finally decided to give Gemini a shot lol. We talked for awhile until we decided to meet and things went well. We had so much stuff in common. We recently hung out and got intimate. He was good in bed and I liked it of course. Day ended and we aparted and before we left he came towards me to give me a kiss. He has not reach out to me since Saturday morning!! I am not going to be the first person to reach to him if that is what he wants. Awhile back he went a week without contacting me and then he contacted me again. He said how bad he felt for not reaching but he felt weird because he thought I didn’t like him. I am leaving him to process his feelings. I am not reaching out to him I already have done enough. Man are hard period. They just never know what they want. As a Gemini I am independent and I don’t need a man to take care of me and I will not hit up a man if they don’t want me. I don’t chase men!! Men chase the woman.

    1. Hi Lina!

      Thank you for sharing your experience. Typically Gemini can work well with another Gemini but they can also at times, cancel each other out. Yes, the men tend to be more dramatic. Not all men chase women though. However, he could end up doing just that because he digs you and ignoring him will make him want more. Do what is right for you though! I’m proud of you!

  5. I’m a Sagittarius and was dating a Gemini man. We got on so well both same humor, great sex.
    But he then started to go hot & cold. It got so annoying to the point when he got stupid drunk one night I just blocked him I said I’m done with this and he said he was done too. After 3 months he came back apologized and we tried to start afresh everything seemed to be going well. Then bam lock down happened, he went hot and cold again I asked him if everything was ok or perhaps his met someone else why his like this. He completely flipped at me said I was crazy, paranoid & told me to move on, he kept me on Snapchat for a few days and would send me messages on there asking if I was ok and saying I was really stunning I said thank you. Then the next day he completely blocked me. I have now been blocked for a week and not sure if he will unblock me so we can meet up and properly talk. What would you suggest I do? Give him space to unblock me?

    1. I am a sagitarius female and i met a gemini man before lock down. At the first date, i knew he was a lying loser. He wanted women to treat him like how women are courted in a relationship. i stayed friends with him. he invented all kinds of stories and every time i questioned the information , he did the blocking/ unblocking crap and asked me to apologize. I refused to do that so he went crying to his dad. Then he called me crazy. I pissed him off so badly so that he would run away on his own. Run for your lifeunless you want to be melania trump.

    2. Im currently seeing a married gemini guy he took me out and we have had sex a few times but he plays hot and cold on me thinks im sleeping with someone else which im not was worried about me when off sick cancelled a couple of times im totallt confused on his feelings

  6. Hi, I am currently dating a guy and also been dealing with the hot and cold behaviour. It’s a nightmare but when it’s good it’s magic!

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