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Why a Gemini Man Would Ignore Your Text

I sometimes get emails from women who get together with a Gemini man who will text her a bunch at first then suddenly goes cold with it. Why does he do this? Are you asking yourself “why my Gemini man stopped texting me?”. 

I completely understand and feel for you. When a Gemini man ignores you, it’s for a purpose. I want to help you out so keep reading to learn more about what his reasons are and what you can do about it. 

He’s Just Busy

Gemini men often have several irons in the fire. That means they are very busy men. They like to have lots of different things to do in order to avoid facing boredom which to them is like facing doom.

He will work a whole lot to make his career successful, to earn as much money as he can, and of course to make sure that he has no time to be lazy or bored. That being said; this would be one big reason why he may not get back to you very quickly.

He goes through phases with things like texting or even messaging via social media. He will be hot and heavy sometimes. This will give you the impression that he is incredibly romantic and adoring.

Then he becomes busy with other things and doesn’t find the time to message you like he used to. That doesn’t he’s gone cold or that he isn’t interested anymore. It can sometimes but most of the time doesn’t.

Try not to take it too personally when he does this. As long as he DOES actually get back to you at some point; it shouldn’t be too big of an issue. If you freak out on him over it though; you may regret it so be careful!

If you’re finding yourself saying “my gemini man stopped texting me” a bit too often then you may want to reconsider whether or not he’s the one for you.

He Is Uncertain How He Feels About You

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It is possible he’s spent some good time with you but is now assessing how he really feels on a deeper level. This would make him go from hot to cold on you. This is the time that he’ll try to find out what he wants.

He will take time to himself, he will make excuses as to why he can’t meet up with you, will blow off your texts, and may blow you off on social networks as well. Again; don’t assume anything yet though.

He pulls back when he isn’t sure of what he wants, how he truly feels about you, or is afraid that it’s moving too quickly. These reasons will make him gun why with you and will cause him to not reply to you right away if at all.

If he does actually like you or has deeper feelings though; he will come back around when he feels ready to do so. This is when he’ll text you back, ask you to hang out, or do something fun.

It’s only if he isn’t ready for a relationship or isn’t that into you that he will blow you off entirely. So going a day or maybe several without him responding doesn’t mean he’s done.

However; you’ll need to decide how long is too long though if he contacts you in less than a week; you’re probably ok. It’s when he goes longer than that where you have to reconsider pining over him.

He Isn’t Ready to Commit

This is definitely one possibility with a Gemini guy. He already takes his sweet time when he’s dating to figure out if he wants to take it further or if he wants to have fun for as long as he can.

If he feels that you’re pushing for a committed relationship that he isn’t ready for; he’ll start backing off or pulling away from you. This will mean he starts to cool down where texts are concerned as well as phone calls.

Typically if he isn’t really ready for a relationship; he won’t try to push things forward and he may actually open up and tell you that he isn’t ready for it. If he does; believe it. He’s not telling you that for any other reason than truth.

I have many women that write in that seem to think that even though the guy tells them they aren’t ready; that maybe they still are. No, they aren’t.

They may still have sex with you and spend time with you but if they say they don’t want a relationship; they absolutely mean it. You will get yourself hurt if you believe otherwise.

Alternate Reasons

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There are always things that can emerge to cause anyone to not answer texts messages as quickly as they normally would. He could be sick, his phone could be dead, he may have left his phone somewhere, or he perhaps didn’t get your text.

There are many other reasons outside of him not being interested that it’s not in your own peace of mind to assume that it’s because he doesn’t want to talk to you. Gemini men have busy minds. 

If you’re asking “ why is my gemini man ignoring my text”, you’ve got to realize that he’s not like all other guys. When a gemini man ignores your text, stop and think about things before you freak out. 

He has 101 things going on in his head at almost all times. Due to this; he’ll often have his head elsewhere and could just simply forget his phone or forget to text you back after he has read your message.

It isn’t helpful for you to assume that he’s ignoring you when he more than likely isn’t. It CAN happen but much of the time; it’s simply not the case. Until you have the answers from him directly, try not to worry so much.

Gemini men like to go out with friends a lot just as they like to spend a lot of time at home by themselves. Whatever the case may be; it won’t do you any good to panic and worry about what he’s thinking or feeling.

What To Do When Gemini Man Ignores You

Now that you have some ideas about when a Gemini man ignores you, you need to know what to do. I can help you with that too. My advice to you is not to give up right away. 

When you’re thinking “why is my Gemini man ignoring my text?”, stop and try not to react. It’s going to take something you may not be familiar with in order for things to go successfully.

Wait him out and you’ll get the answer as to why he didn’t respond. Of course if he goes longer than a handful of days; then something could be amiss and you could start to speculate maybe he’s done.

Be patient and don’t hold out too much expectation that way you won’t be disappointed. Let him come to you. When you leave him alone, he’ll often want to chase you. 

Now you know what to do when Gemini man ignores you. You can either ignore him back or you can do what I just shared with you. 

Read next: 6 Tips to Get Your Ice-Cold Gemini Man to Text You Back


Get to know your Gemini man and what he likes.  It may help you to know what he’s into so that you’ll know what he may put off messaging you back for. Click here to learn more about what Gemini men crave.

Knowing him helps you to know better as to how to respond to him. When a gemini man ignores your text, make him wonder what you’re up to by not saying anything to him again for a while. Let him sweat it out. 

Gemini men can be complicated but they can also fill your heart with joy. Texting shouldn’t ever be the main source of your communication. It’s easily misinterpreted as is whether or not someone gets back to you.

Sometimes he doesn’t text back right away from being busy and sometimes if you aren’t replying or asking him a question, he doesn’t feel motivated to text back. 

He’s a man and they are different from women. Women are more emotional and tend to rely on keeping up with their guy. When their guy doesn’t get back to them quickly, they worry. 

That being said, you’ve got to try to think from his perspective. If you can think like a guy, you might understand what is going on better and know how to react properly. 

Speaking of Gemini man, I have something really cool to share with you. Did you know that sensational and brilliant Chris Pratt is of the Gemini persuasion? How awesome is that?! 

Did you get a Gemini man to stop ignoring your texts? How did you do it? Share with me your experience. 

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Wishing you all the luck of the universe

Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,

Anna Kovach

12 thoughts on “Why a Gemini Man Would Ignore Your Text

  1. I started seeing a Gemini in June 2017.. blown away at how perfect he was. I’m a Libra. He got me had my banter we talked about everything. Gradually we said friends.(with benefits) I wanted more but I don’t like to cause drama so i played along. Anyway time went by he went cold then hot then finally I chose to stop talking to him in December. January this year he got back in touch. Didn’t sleep together just friends laughed and joked like friends do. For two months we spoke everyday. He asked me if i wanted to go travelling with him which he knows I love. As best friends he said. We’re Booked to go away in May. Then he started mentioning the whole meaning of life what my view of the purpose of life was. I played it cool. He told me he believes life is about meeting your soul mate, being happy, fining love and having a family. Again, i played it cool and agreed.
    Then randomly he turned and said that We’re just friend when we’re away that he is going finding true love. Then he mentions how good looking girls are.
    I’m a confused mess, I understand they can be hot and cold. Is he playing a game or is he just being honest. We get along so well but I’m just wondering wondering it will only ever be friends?.. any stories of people in similar situations with a Gemini would be helpful. Thank you.

    1. Oh yes, i have the same issue. Am a virgo and my boyfriend is a Gemini who was amazing at the beginning of our relationship. He was absolutely great until I paniced over him saying that he doesn’t want a commitment what so ever and i started to become a pain in the ass. And once i had a fight with him that i need answers and I cannot stand this situation and out on no where he mentioned that he wanted the commitment but i was irrational and out of patience. I remember how at first, he was falling in love with me while I didn’t quite share the same feelings and i was picking fights when he is mentioning that our relationship is not clear and maybe we will have forever relationship but it is not certain although am not deeply in love yet. I remember him saying that we will grow old together as friends or something else which bothered me a lot cuz what he is doing is keeping open answers. He kept it vague like he doesn’t want me at the moment to imagine or believe that we will end up a happily ever after couple because he needs to make sure that he is choosing the right person or the right woman to be his partner in life. His words has shades on them almost every time we speack. After 4 months of our relationship and falling deeply for him and his feelings were strong towards me also, i knew it. We had several big fights over so many things and one of them was the future of our relationship, i broke down and told him that I can’t move on anymore and i think splitting up is perfect for both of us, at that same day, he mentioned that he was considering marrying me as i mentioned earlier but i desappointed him. He asked me a question : what do u think will happen if we were married and our issue escalated? He thinks that because i am imature enough i will ask for a divorce. Then he turned into a cold person and i think one of the reasons is because I challenged him somehow by saying: i knew u wanted me as ur wife. This sentence irretated him because Gemini likes to keep it mysterious all the time and in some cases they think they are unpredictable, and the truth is that some of us (women) are smart enough to know there way of thinking but we don’t want to come near their ego or errogance to avoid more games coming from their side. After the cold phase, we got into a friend phase which i asked for and then things evolved and we got into love phase again but with little romance and then with time things elevated to a next level when we had another fight beacauae he mentioned his ex coming into his life and mentioning that i am his special space to lagugh, speack and express his feelings (didn’t like the word space, i am more than a space which made me angry) then I couldn’t stand it again and broke up for a month then got back to him when i knew that he was sick and after a while we spoke about our relationship and asked directly: what do i mean to you? And he said u are my love and then i asked him not to mention our future and told him that we can live the moment. He wanted to make it clear that we are meant to fall in love but not meant to be life partners and I shouldn’t ask him for anything or blame him at all and i agreed for a simple reason: i loved him from the bottom of my heart. And he changed, he is sweet to me now, gentle, a great lover and understanding. We used to have fight almost every two weeks but not anymore. I am confused as much as u are, do i stay with him and get my heart broken one day or do i leave him and survive with what is remained in my soul or do i stay with him hopping that he will realize one day that we are meant to be together. The hope exists for a simple reason, he keeps the rope tied some times and untied in other times like when he say that no woman on this planet earth make him feels the way i make him feel and i belong to him and when we hug he says i want you here forever or when he makes joke about me having a fight with him and going back to my parents house as if we are a real husband and wife or when he speaks about how he want to show me different parts of the world and want to spend a life time with me.

      At the end i must say if you got away with it don’t come back hoping, because he may not be ur destiny but if you want to stay on this road make it clear to ur self that no matter what happened, this person was a good experience on many level because they are smart and believe me u will learn a lot from them. Also, don’t be afraid of love, it won’t bite u, it will just break ur heart and cause u a long time heartache but keep thinking of the future will be permanent sickness if u kept wearing it and will affect ur soul , mind in addition to ur heart. Go with the flow with him or create a new flow without demanding and without asking for commitments, ur destiny will find u one day.
      I am still with him and i believe in this.
      Try to read paulo coelho novels, it enlightened my soul eg: The Alchemist, Manuscript of Accra and Veronica decides to die. These books can make u see the life differently.

  2. I’m “with” a Gemini man. We haven’t talked in 12 days. We just celebrated our 6 month anniversary last month, where he asked me to move in with him/live with him. I was not expecting that – as he’s always the first one to make the effort in moving our relationship forward. It’s like he wants all of me, yet when he gets into his mood, i have to walk on eggshells. He does not like it when i have a problem with him. As long as things are great, we’re great. But whenever I bring up an issue, he can’t take it and i get the silent treatment. This time, (12 days and counting) he’s decided to ignore me after I brought up that he talks more to his friends than with me and i feel like he doesn’t make me a priority. Denial of course — I’m wrong. We didn’t have a big argument, it was supposed to be a discussion that inevitably got heated…but still. He decided he was “done” talking to me about the situation and took a nap. I then left his house and texted him 4 hours later, no response. My text was simply i was done with my errands and wanted to see him (some flirty lines included). He didnt say anything. The next day, after no response, i text him again and said im not dealing with his silent treatment this time around if I didnt hear from him soon i would be blocking him. Well…its 12 days in and i haven’t heard from him. And i didnt block him. What is wrong with me? What is he doing? Are we broken up? I honestly can’t stand him and his moods most of the time…why do i even care. Maybe I’m just scared of being alone. He’s never said he’s loved me although we’ve met each other’s friends and family and traveled all over the globe together. Before this, we spent every day together (other than the 2 other times he’s given me the silent treatment — first for 4 days, then 5, now 12?!— Ughhh. I hate not knowing. If I don’t hear from him by Friday, I will block him for sure. I’ve already deleted him on FB.

  3. I’ve been seeing a Gemini for almost 7 months. Three weeks ago he tells me that he finally had to admit that he missed me…
    Then he got cold and distant. We had a bit of a disagreement not a fight, and bam he blocked me completely number social media. I haven’t heard from him since, it’s been a week.
    I’m in limbo because it was I miss you, now I’m just done with you??????

  4. Hey I’m an Aries OMG IT has been a roller coaster for me
    were up for like a month in a half
    I accused him of cheating,we broke up
    its been 7 days since I saw him but we still been talking everyday
    Just not on the phone,just texting
    I still flirt with him
    he will talk to me,if i call him
    now he’s reading my messages looking at them and not replying as fast as he use to

    hes kind of confusing

    I’m an Aries,we need our freedom and independence to,I can deal with this
    but at least give me clarity

    i don’t know what to do
    wait or move on

  5. I’m a Pisces who met a Gemini man on a dating site. He was very flirty – super hot with me via text and I was not prepared for that! He really listened and liked talking with me. He works nights so our chat schedules are so far off. He’s asleep while I’m awake. He works 85 hours a week to help out his kid through college. Anyways, I had to initiate us meeting but he drove an hour to see me, twice! He was a perfect gentlemen and we really connected. He’s super sexual but never pushed me at all. The last date we had he was so happy being with me and said he couldn’t wait to see me again. Well a few days later he sent me a text saying he didn’t know if he could handle a relationship now with me or anyone because of his hours he works. He said he doesn’t even have time for himself and he’s okay with that. He said he does still want to come back and have dinner with me and chat still. This guy was worried I hated him – not so much! Ever since this text he has slowed down with flirting immensely and I can’t figure out what the deal is. I should have told him that I wanted to take it slow and was okay without labeling us but didn’t. I hope I didn’t ruin this. Slight chance I will see him in person next week and I want to talk to him. Any advice or should I let the Gemini go?:(

    1. Hi MandaLee!

      Super hot and flirty is all Gemini men for the most part. That’s a typical trait. Over thinking things is another trait they have. It sounds like he was all into it then thought more and more thus coming to the conclusion that it’s too difficult for him to have something meaningful while he’s working an abundance of hours. Just take it slow honey. If he wants to come visit then let him when he can. If you go slow and let things develop over time, you might have something special and he’ll appreciate you. You have to decide if you can do this or if you want something faster. He’s not a fast mover by any stretch. The choice is up to you!

    2. Hi, sorry to say that, but your Gemini man seems like a jerk. He is attracted by an amazing « getaway » from his busy tiring schedule: great dinner, charming company and free sex. Maybe you two are connected. But believe me, a Gemini can connect to anyone he wants, at least pretends to be connected.
      He was honest (and clever) to make it clear that there will be no commitment from his end.
      You are a wonderful sexy woman. You know what you want.

  6. Hi I am a Libra and discovered a Gemini man that I like and want to be friends with benefits with. In the beginning, we did a lot of flirting and had secret looks. Then he and I engaged in some heavy make-out sessions. We spoke briefly on a Friday and we had great conversations but then all of sudden he became cold and distant. I sent many texts and calls, still no response. I am not sure what to make of this. He says I am what he wants but not what I need. I am worried that I pushed to quickly to get to know him even though, I shared deep stuff with him. I wonder if I should just stop reaching out all together and let things be on a friends only terms, minus the benefits.

  7. I’m a Virgo and I met a Gemini man on a dating website. We exchanged numbers and started texting each other. At first he was pretty flirty and that was nice. So I flirted back. We started chatting about anything and everything. He works long hours but always returned a text now and then. These last few weeks we have been texting more and actually talked on the phone for the first time last weekend. We only spoke for a few minutes but it was great. We texted a little bit on Monday but after that nothing. I haven’t heard back from him. Did I say something? Or was I becoming to needy? Will he come around? Any advice that you may have would be greatly appreciated.

    1. He saw a shiny new toy. Thank your lucky stars….Geminis will make you insecure with all the self-doubt and non-commitment

  8. Seriously, why do we waste our time with Virgos or Gemini men?? They are both wishy washy, indecisive, string us along until they are ready and even then we still have to play all sorts of games just to keep their attention. It’s exhausting and I for one, am out! I have sworn off Virgo, Gemini, Sagittarius (cheaters), and Cancer (too emotional).

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