Are you dating or looking to date a Gemini man? Well, chances are, you’re wondering how to get your Gemini man to open up to you. Well, you’re not alone. I’ve seen many women write about this problem. They are often wondering how to get a Gemini man to confess his love.
The most important thing to know about the Gemini man is that he’s a free spirit. He truly is the type of person who wants to live in the present. He isn’t one for thinking about the past much, as it stirs emotions he doesn’t want.
A Gemini man doesn’t like thinking about the future much either. He wants to keep things to himself, and he is not prone to sharing his inner thoughts.
But here’s how to get a Gemini man to open up: though it may be difficult, you can help make the whole process easier for him.
Why Do Geminis Hide Their Feelings?
Gemini men aren’t good at processing their own feelings. So when it comes to other people, they’re that much worse. It takes time and diligence to get the Gemini man to finally talk about what he’s feeling.
He has indecision often when it comes to what he’s feeling, why, and for whom. It’s likely you’ll look at him and catch him staring off pensively. He’s contemplating what he needs to decide.
If he’s dealing with some inner problems from the past, he’ll definitely try to keep this from you. He wants you to believe that everything with him is alright and there is nothing to worry about.
A Gemini man feels like a weaker man if he allows his emotions to show. He has mastered how to hide his feelings so that no one else can tell what is going on with him. This is actually part of what makes him deliciously mysterious. It’s a catch 22.
Ultimately, the Gemini man wants to think about his own problems in private so that he can figure out what he wants and what he perhaps wants to do about them rather than talk to someone. A Gemini man hiding his feelings is not a surprise.
This means he’s not likely to ask you for your advice about personal situations. How do you cope with this? This will be for you to figure out. Understand that your Gemini man needs a bit of space.
How To Get A Gemini Man To Open Up (4 Ways To Get A Gemini Man To Talk About His Feelings)
If Gemini men are notorious for anything, it’s their dynamic ability to be a jack of all trades. Ruled by Mercury, Gemini men are natural born builders, craftsmen, writers, chefs, and artists. They really embrace anything that involves using their mind or their hands.
Being a mutable Air sign, the dynamic Gemini man is always on the go. Therefore, if you want to connect with him enough to get past his emotional walls (and keep his attention), you will have to take the party to him.
Find an activity that you both enjoy. By bonding over a shared activity, you allow the Gemini man to feel comfortable and in control of his environment. This helps the Gemini man relax and get out of his head.
He feels comfortable sharing his feelings with you. He’s not afraid to express his affection and love.
Here’s more on what a Gemini man likes and dislikes in a woman.
2. Keep His Attention
It’s no secret that the Gemini man is a hopeless flirt. His cool and curious personality is alluring to the opposite sex.
Although it may not be hard to capture the Gemini man’s attention, it is impossible at times to maintain it. Whether it’s other women he’s after or his next big project or inspiration, the Gemini man is always fluttering from one idea to the next.
However, one thing a Gemini man cannot resist is a woman who knows how to keep his attention. Whether it’s surprising him with a sexy date night in the city, binge watching the latest Netflix movie or documentary series, or talking for hours on the phone, the Gemini man wants someone who makes him feel like a priority in their life.
When the Gemini man feels like you are doing everything to give him attention and make him feel special, he goes above and beyond to open up and share his feelings so you can feel appreciated in return.
3. Be His Inspiration
As air signs, Gemini men are social creatures who live to share their experiences with others. Gemini men want to share their words and many talents as an inspiration to the world.
However, when it comes to a one-on-one relationship, the Gemini man is most attracted to (and vulnerable with) the woman whom he is inspired by.
Whether it’s being his creative muse for a photoshoot, listening to his new poetry, brainstorming a new product idea, helping with a speech, pitching in on an errand, being the third wheel with his friends, or staying up late with him so he can finish his work, show the Gemini man that you will show up for him.
There are endless possibilities to show your support. Remind him that you and your relationship are a reflection of all the love, positive influence, and inspiration you receive from him. Although your support and encouragement may seem trivial at times, it means the world to the Gemini man.
Every time you show up for him, his hesitation to commit weakens, and he becomes more open to sharing his feelings and expressing his love for you.
4. Respect His Space
Have you ever heard the phrase, “Gemini’s are two-faced” or “Gemini’s can’t be trusted?” If yes, this is because in Astrology, Gemini is represented by the twins, which signify duality and the higher and lower mind (self).
With Gemini’s increased dual nature, some Gemini men can be quite moody, always bickering and going back and forth. In a relationship setting, this extreme polarization can become overwhelming, and sometimes the Gemini man will ask for alone time to recenter.
So, instead of crowding him, respect his request for more space. Although this can be difficult at times, listen to him. The Gemini man appreciates a woman who allows him to think for himself and have alone time.
By giving him the space he needs when he asks for it, you show the Gemini man that you not only respect him as a human (and as your current or potential partner), but that you yourself are independent and not clingy.
He will admire that you are your own person. It will melt his heart that you can take care of yourself.
Few More Ways To Emotionally Connect With A Gemini Man
5. Make Him Feel Safe
The Gemini guy will want to feel safe when he talks to his partner. Unfortunately, it takes time for him to feel safe. He has to see the proof instead of taking you at your word.
If you’re dating a Gemini guy, you may notice that over time, he’ll open up about certain things but not with others. There are some topics he’ll avoid, like the plague. Try not to push him.
It may be hard to see him thinking about things and not intervening in what is going on with him. When you ask him what he’s feeling, he’ll clam up. It’s actually better to not ask him.
The better thing to do is allow him to feel safe with you over time. Let him know somehow that when or if he wants to talk about anything, you are always in his corner. He has to be sure you’re not going to judge him or his feelings.
6. Listen To What He Is Saying
When you’ve finally gotten the trust you need from your Gemini guy, he’ll start to emerge. He’ll begin to tell you what is on his mind, what he wants, or what he thinks about emotional issues.
He’s actually really great with communication. It’s just the initial hurdle of getting him to fully trust you, that’s the hard part. Again, give him some time and he’ll begin to see that you’re someone he can rely on.
After that door is opened, he’ll start spilling the beans until eventually, he’ll tell you just about everything. He is a huge talker anyway. He’ll be more than willing to give you plenty of information.
In fact, once you get him going, you’ll wonder how you can get him to stop. He may overshare sometimes which can get annoying. However, if you love him, this shouldn’t be too much of an issue.
Getting the Gemini man to open up is a task. However, it’s well worth the effort and the wait. Once he trusts you, you are in and you will probably win his absolute adoration for the long haul.
You may also want to read: How To Deal With A Gemini Man After A Fight
7. Be Patient With Him
It’s really all about giving the Gemini the time to sort himself out. He will never be in any big hurry to do anything or to discuss anything. You will have to be understanding and patient with him.
There is no way it will ever work if you push him or nag him. He isn’t open to that sort of behavior and will likely leave you behind if you attempt to do that. Gemini man sees it as a method of possible control. He definitely doesn’t like that.
Gemini is a free spirit and he needs a woman who is also this way or will at the very least, be sensitive to his needs. If you give him what he needs, he’ll give you the same in return.
Nothing will come easily and will take a great deal of time. It will push your patience and it will push your own limits. If you know your Gemini guy is worth the time and effort it takes, go for it!
Honestly, he’ll be appreciative if you stick around and show him that you are a woman who is also worth his time and efforts. Time is really an illusion so try not to think about it too much.
Do Gemini Men Open Up Easily?
A Gemini man can discuss different topics with you, but when it comes to matters of the heart, this is something he doesn’t easily talk about.
Always keep in mind that the Gemini man is in no real hurry to dive into a relationship or commitment. He considers telling you important things to be part of being more serious.
While you’re simply dating him, he’s going to hold back and keep things from you. That’s just how he is. Until he builds trust and a full commitment to you, your Gemini man is not going to open up emotionally.
Until you’re in a serious relationship with him, he will not make his inner thoughts come to light. A Gemini man has to feel that you’re not going to take his true emotions and run out on him. He also just doesn’t want to waste his breath on someone he’s unsure about.
It’s a safety and security thing with him. He’s not good at getting serious about someone in the first place. Once he does, he has to adapt in order to feel safe enough to talk to you.
If you know he feels something for you as per his actions, but he’s not talking to you about what he feels, you’re going to have to ask him. There is no other approach to getting a Gemini man to open up.
Don’t expect a Gemini man to open up easily. It’s best if you just let time dictate whether or not he’ll learn to trust you enough to tell you what is in his heart.
Don’t Make This Mistake With Your Gemini Man…
Humans are creatures of habit. If a method has worked in the past, our brain learns that it’s effective.
So… we tend to use it in any other similar circumstances… Not realizing that the context may be completely different.
This is what happened to Ava, a client of mine who was in a relationship with a Gemini man.
At first, Gemini men seemed like a tough nut to crack. His aloofness made Ava feel like there was a solid wall separating them.
It was a classic case of a commitment-phobic guy, or so she thought.
She thought that smothering him with her undivided attention would bring them closer.
At least, that was the strategy she used with her ex-boyfriend.
But to her surprise, it seemed like the more she reached for him, the more he retreated…
Unfortunately, that method was a big mistake.
You see, Gemini men have a unique approach to love.
Trying to win his heart with a “one-size-fits-all” strategy… It’s like attempting to fit a square peg into a round hole.
It simply won’t work.
If you’re trying to build a bridge to your Gemini man’s heart, don’t use materials and tools designed for a completely different project.
Fortunately, Ava used the 21 questions found in my book, Gemini Heart Opener <<
These simple questions helped her get into her Gemini man’s heart. And she gently forced him to share his true feelings with her.
Don’t waste time on strategies that don’t work.
This book is the key to creating a love story that’s designed for you. And not some generic, one-size-fits-all narrative.
Wishing you all the luck of the Universe.
Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,