Ah, Gemini men… You have no idea how many questions I receive from readers about these guys. They seem to really know how to put on the charm and have women fall in love with them! I often get asked, “What makes a Gemini man chase a woman?”
And all I can say is that there is quite a few things one needs to keep in mind when trying to get a Gemini man to chase you. And the number one thing to remember is that Gemini men are very unpredictable… They follow their own set of rules.
So, do Geminis like to be chased? Or will a Gemini man chase you? Well, the answer to that question isn’t so straightforward. It really all depends on the Gemini man. Are you currently experiencing this confusion with your Gemini man?
Well, I can say that you have definitely come to the right place. Keep on reading to find out about Gemini men and what it takes to get them to chase you!
What Makes A Gemini Man Chase A Woman?
The Gemini men are not excited and turned on by the prospect of commitment. He knows that takes a great deal of work and it also takes a whole lot of compromise.
They don’t like giving up personal time or space to anyone else. This makes a Gemini man pull away a bit when it comes to getting serious. The other thing is that they prefer women who are independent.
A Gemini man tends to look for a woman that doesn’t really NEED him. He’d rather be with a woman who wants him but doesn’t need him to make her life complete. As such; if you were to try to chase him; he may not respond well. This is what makes a Gemini man chase a woman.
The idea of a woman who makes her Gemini man her top priority scares him. He wants attention but he wants her to have her own dreams, goals, and times when she’s going to go do her own thing without him. This is how to get a Gemini man to chase you.
When a woman tries chasing him; he feels like maybe she has nothing going on and therefore is trying to make him her main object of affection. There are a few Gemini men who may enjoy the thrill of playing hard to get but most do not.
Gemini guys can be quite frustrating at times but man when they are good, they are fantastic! Just throwing that out there for you. It’s something that should give you a bit of hope and desire.
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Will A Gemini Man Chase You? Or Does He Like To Be Chased Instead?
The Gemini man wants more of a balanced situation. He’d rather do it the old-fashioned way where there is courting involved rather than one chasing another. Not to say he won’t chase you but you’d have to be pretty special.
When you seem overly eager to be with him; it will turn your Gemini man off. Again, it’s that mentality of wanting a woman who has her own life going on and doesn’t need him to complete it.
There is nothing wrong with letting him know that you’re interested and even maybe asking him for a coffee. However; if you come on too strong or make it seem as though you’ve got to have him; he’ll run in the opposite direction.
Treat the situation as though you’re right about letting time dictate how things will play out naturally. Be more spontaneous and open to what may come your way. That will be far more refreshing and exciting!
Do Gemini guys like to be chased? It depends on him and it depends on what he has going on in his life. It may also depend on his Moon or Rising sign as well.
I tell you what, try to let him know in some way that you’re interested in him, and then let him do the rest. If he’s interested; you’ll know it as he’ll make it fairly obvious to you that he wants to know you more.
Remember to not give yourself away. Be mysterious and intriguing. He wants to figure you out over time and there is no better way than by being friends first. He’ll ask questions to know you over time.
Learn more about the surefire signs a Gemini man has feelings for you.
How To Get A Gemini Man To Chase You (6 Easy Ways)
1. Be Friends First
The best approach to getting a Gemini man to come calling is to be his friend first. This way you are able to get to know him, know his likes, know his dislikes, and get the “inside” information you want.
Since not all Gemini men are the same; this will help you to figure out which type you’ve got and what you can do about it. You can figure out if he’s the type that would prefer a woman to be bold with him or if he prefers a woman for him to chase.
Having some of that information is definitely helpful. Also forming a friendship first will actually make things far easier communication-wise. You two can get to know each other and figure out if you’re actually compatible or not.
Gemini men are slow movers and will prefer to be friends first with you until they can fully assess if you’re the type of woman they want to try dating. He isn’t thinking about marriage or commitment.
He’s thinking about whether or not he can DATE you. Only after he’s dated you for what he feels is a significant time will he decide whether or not it can go further than that.
While you’re still unattached to each other though; just be friendly. Keep things light and airy with him. Be funny and show him WHY you would be a good match for him.
2. Be Witty And Interesting
Gemini’s are the most talkative signs of the Zodiac, and they have a wonderful way with words. You won’t meet a better joke-teller!
The way they speak is so highly characteristic of them and so they are likely to search out somebody with similar ways of thinking and speaking. So, one way to encourage a Gemini to chase you is to engage him in any manner of mental connection.
Gemini is ruled by Mercury, the planet of communication and how each one of us thinks. Since Gemini has such close ties to Mercury, we can reasonably assume that Geminis have similar qualities to the planet Mercury.
They really enjoy a flirtatious meeting of the minds. They go nuts for someone who can intelligently banter with them as flirting. Going this route will ensure that you stay on their minds. One thing a Gemini cannot ignore is someone who can match them in mental prowess.
So, make sure to flex your critical thinking skills around a Gemini. And remember, Mercury is also the fastest planet in the solar system, so your mind better go as fast as theirs does – if you want to keep them interested!
Learn more about what a Gemini man likes and dislikes in a woman.
3. Go With The Flow
A Gemini will head in eight different directions before breakfast and will need the room to freely explore every direction, so it is important that they feel empowered to do so.
A great way to open up a Gemini to pursuing you is to stay open to any new possibility they may come up with throughout the day.
In the morning they may want to take a road trip to their favourite restaurant two hours away and by lunchtime, they may want to stay snuggled in bed. And you need to be okay with that.
Finding someone who is open to letting a Gemini pursue any avenue they find interesting that second is going to have a much better chance at winning their heart.
The key is to not be threatened by a Gemini’s roving mind. If you are solid enough and have enough substance then the Gemini will come back to you with time. It just takes them exhausting every avenue first.
4. Be Social
If you know anything about Geminis, you know that they are hyper-social! In most cases, they are the most social sign of the Zodiac.
One can imagine that a Gemini is not typically too interested in hanging out with someone who is very introverted. It just works against who they are at their core.
They will be most open to being with someone who will be comfortable going out and meeting and greeting them.
So, if you want to encourage a Gemini to chase after you, then show that you like to talk to people and actively engage in social scenarios.
Make sure that you let your Gemini in on the times you expect to go out and about. Make sure that they see pictures on social media or better yet, invite them to go out with you! As long as it is clear that it is just to hang out and that it isn’t a date then they will be on board.
The idea is to hang out with them enough outside of a romantic context to entice them into a romantic situation with you.
5. Don’t Ask For Commitment Too Soon
We’ve established that Geminis move fast and that their minds are always active and running. But what else does this mean for a woman who is looking to be chased by the Gemini?
A Gemini always likes to keep his options open. He doesn’t like feeling married to one decision forever unless he has evaluated all other options and has decided that one option is superior.
As a result, do not make the Gemini man feel like he has to commit to having a chance with you. This can be difficult, but it is important to note in order to recognize how a Gemini man operates.
A Gemini man is going to feel most free to explore you and who you are when they know that you aren’t the only option. When they have all the options open to them and they still choose to go after you, that is how you know a Gemini man is ready to commit.
This can be a frustrating process but hopefully, one that doesn’t last for a long time after they recognize that you are the one that they really want.
Just be on the lookout for signs that they are letting go of all the other options and committing to you.
6. Ignore Him
This is going to drive them insane. As I have covered, a Gemini man is all about keeping his options open. So, when you ignore him, it is like he is losing an option.
The Gemini man cannot resist the urge to open up all pathways of thinking and perceiving the world. And people fall under this umbrella.
So, when you shut them out a little, they will begin to increase their efforts to open up the lines of communication again.
They will not be able to stop thinking about losing you as an option when you push them away. As a result, you’ll see them become hyper-flexible to attempt to meet any need that will help you stay with them and in their life.
The important thing to remember here is to close him out a little bit, but not completely ghost him. If he feels there is no chance at all he will just discount you as an option to pacify his need to feel that he still has all the choices he wants.
Like I said, a Gemini man will not chase you unless the conditions are perfect! As a result, it is important to stay consistent in your approach.
Don’t be afraid to pull back some! Sometimes Geminis need to be reminded that you aren’t just going to stay freely available to them forever. They need to pull the trigger if they want to cash in on your affection.
Learn more tips on how to get a Gemini man obsessed with you.
Should I Play Hard To Get To Make A Gemini Man To Chase Me?
Playing hard to get is basically the best rule of thumb to follow if you want to make a Gemini man chase you. This cerebral man needs a woman who can feel like a challenge to him. Life would be boring if he got everything he wanted.
Intrigue and mystery make his life exciting. And the best way to create this is to play hard to get with your Gemini man. If you just play open cards with your Gemini man, he might find it a little boring.
He likes to be able to work towards a goal as this gets his cogs turning. Anything a Gemini man gets too easily he doesn’t appreciate. It is always better for him to struggle a little bit, this is why you should play hard to get with him.
Give him enough of your energy to make him interested, but pull back when he least expects it to keep things interesting for him. I know this can be somewhat exhausting, but you will be happy you did this with him as he needs this stimulation. Keep him on his toes!
So, Do Geminis Like To Chase Or Be Chased? Final Thoughts
If I were to give you a very simple answer, I would say that Gemini men definitely prefer to be the ones doing all the chasing. Being chased is no fun for them because it means that you are making it too easy for him.
He is a man that needs that extra stimulation and excitement. This is the only way he stays interested in a woman. I know playing games isn’t always fun and it can be exhausting to do, but if you lean back and let him come to you, it’ll be more worth it in the end.
Gemini men may think they like to be chased, but the truth is, no man does, and if he does, then that should be somewhat of a red flag for you. Let him lead, and try not to force things. Be yourself and remember that you are a prize.
Is Your Gemini Man Avoiding Commitment?
Does your Gemini man pull away or get quiet when you’ve just had a deep emotional connection? Does he seem to disappear just when you thought he was getting closer? Have you felt confused by his hot and cold behavior?
If so, then he might have an avoidant attachment style.
He could be Dismissive Avoidant and completely terrified of commitment… Or he could be Fearful Avoidant and REALLY want commitment… But get scared when he feels himself getting closer to you.
If he has either one of these attachment styles, you’re going to end up feeling extremely confused at times.
And both are caused by childhood trauma.
When you can see the scared little boy inside him that had to shut down his feelings if he’s dismissive avoidant… Or have a parent not provide his needs consistently if he’s fearful avoidant…
It can make it easier to have empathy and compassion for his confusing and frustrating behavior. But that won’t fix it.
And while advice on attachment styles can be helpful…
What you really need to stop this frustrating hot and cold cycle is to understand him better.
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xoxo,
Anna
I am in love with a gemini man. We are not in a relationship yet. He too had feelings for me at first but after few serious fights he started ignoring me. Whenever I go out with other men he becomes angry on me but still behaves as if he does not care. Even after the fight he was there by my side at my hard times. He denies the fact that he still has feelings for me but he told me he will think about me later. Still he flirts with other women and hangout with them but he gets jealous whenever I go out with other men. He is making me wait and I am confused should I wait or not. I don’t know is it true or not but I still feel he has feelings for me. So please help me out.
As an evolved Gemini man I have to say I agree with your take on how Geminis see dating. Yes we are a different breed not by choice but by design. Our brains function differently and while everyone is unique, Geminis see dating a lot of people as a need to accommodate physical needs… If you do happen to show a side to you that invigorates the gemini you don’t have to worry we know when we want to go all the way with you, but you have to be special, real special
That being said it is not wise to let a gemini chase you, Geminis see chasing as a silly game played by the socially conditioned. If you like a Gemini be direct. Say ‘hey let’s meet for coffee and chill sometime’ don’t make it a question. Make it a statement. This enables the Gemini to appreciate your directness in getting to know the gem. Playing the chasing game will only put you in the long list of people waiting for Gemini to chase them
Hi Rishu!
Thank you for chiming in as a Gemini man. It’s very refreshing to see one pop on here and confirm that what I’ve written is very sound. I really appreciate you chiming in. Thank you for the additional tips as well!
I am in love with a heartless gemini man, he had a very bad breakup and since been lonely, said it’s harder for him to feel in love again. We are not in a relationship yet. He too had feelings for me at first but after the second date he started ignoring me. He wasn’t smiling as often and wasn’t prompt in replying my text. The conversation got lesser and awkward. I asked what happened and he said he wants to pull back as he hasn’t develop any feeling for me and didn’t wish to hold me back. I really like this man, and wanted to give it a shot, asked if he could give us a chance to get to know each other and asking him to open up to me before we decide to stop contacting. He agreed to it but said I’ve only have less than 2 months time to get him falling in love with me. I’m not too sure what I should do to avoid losing him. Please advice
Hi Vanessa!
I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve had to experience heartbreak due to a Gemini man’s carelessness. I do want you to know that they are not all like that. See Rishu’s description above you and you’ll see that some care very much. Falling in love is not a quick easy thing for them typically. You’ve got to have patience. Love should never have a deadline as far as when someone should feel the same for you. Communication has to be in order and you need to be very straight with him on how you feel. You can still salvage this sweetheart!
I am a capricorn woman so I’ve always set my own rules (as most capricorns do) and have been very patient when it comes to love. The first time I ever truly liked a boy was in the second year of my uni and he was a gemini. I fell in love with him immediately not just because of his looks, but he had a serious personality just like me and he was intelligent and appeared well-groomed. though we were in the same class, we never talked yet as we had different friend groups but i would catch him observing me and he would catch me doing the same! lol. i noticed him being a completely different person outside classroom, a hot shot, a showstoopper, all girls had a crush on him! he was soon famous in the class while i was the quiet one but it is so funny that we continued locking our eyes with each other from a far, judging each other because he stood out in the class due to his playfulness and looks and i stood out out because i was simple, modest, quiet but at the same time a class topper and smart. one day he texted me for notes, i started talking to him but he responded immediately that we were poles apart. i couldn’t quite understand his indirect indication (i was too straight-forward and naive), i kept showing interest in just knowing him. finally, he called me out to introduce himself, i thought maybe he is finally interested in me now but he directly said after a little conservation that he isn’t interested in me. I was a little heart broken but I had always believed that waiting for the guy to admit he loves/doesn’t love you is always better before you do the same. I went home that day and thought it was fine that he didn’t like me, that I will find someone better. the next day i went to class and acted all normal and went to my seat. he was surprised by my calm attitude, that i didn’t chase him or show any reaction. Can you believe it? he called me to his seat, said I should sit with him. after a couple of days, no text, nothing. our class groups became friends, we hung out. then he started texting me, within a few weeks we both were laughing in class, our thoughts aligned, dated. everyone noticed that two people who look poles apart are suddenly gigling, we didn’t go on any further private dates because we both were too shy with everyone noticing us, and also because i belong to a conservative family so my mom didn’t allow me to date. unfortunately, some strange events happened in my life due to which we both separated but he didn’t give up on chasing me and proposed me in the final years of my university. i rejected because i had some family issues going on. we parted ways, three years later, we reconnected through a mutual friend and we both admitted that we have the same feelings for each other. down the road, i see our wedding bells ring. but the point is, wait for the guy and get to know him first before revealing yourself i would say! and like Anna Kovach said, give it some time, don’t rush into assuming that you both love each other. true love is built on trust and friendship and mutual understanding. if we had nothing in mutual internally, we would have never had long text conversations and felt that “zing:. Also, he had been just out of a fresh break up while it was my first date ever! but we zingedd after a few months!. So be smart, play a little hard to get, be mysterious and see how he reacts 😀
Hi Sarah!
Wow what a story! Thank you for sharing it. I love when women share their stories with me. I absolutely thing happy endings are so beautiful. I’m glad that it’s working out for you so well sweetheart. I wish you nothing but the best!
I’m an Aquarius woman dating a Gemini man. We’re both in our 30s and I was immediately smitten. He’s incredibly hard to read but we’ve been dating for just over a month now. From the day we matched, he’s been consistently texting but had made it clear that he wants to get to know each other naturally versus asking a million of the hard hitting questions from the get go. He’s incredibly busy, often with only 1 day off a week, and he’ll still make time to take me on a date or at least see me for something more low-key. I always make it a point to thank him for making time for me and to communicate the things I appreciate about him. I’ve recently noticed that he’s started to do the same where he tells me the things he likes about me too. I’ve never been with anyone who’s made dating feel this fun and easy. I’m a little worried his Gemini self might pull a 180 randomly — I have yet to experience all the moods/personalities. Even if that were to happen though, it’ll have been worth the heartbreak. Until then, I’m just enjoying the ride.