Broken up with your Gemini fella? Ouch. Breakups are seldom easy, and they’re even harder when we don’t know exactly what we’re dealing with. Do we really miss him? Gemini have so many different personalities, that you may miss a part of them – and some parts you’re happy to get away from! But how do you actually move on and open up to new love – leaving him behind?
There are some signs that do get a bit of a bad rap when it comes to astrology. Gemini, unfortunately, can be one of them. These are signs that are well-known for being a little, well, fickle. At their best, Gemini men are loyal and fun-loving, but at their worst, they are reckless with hearts and feelings.
Whatever the problem was that separated you, it’s still never easy, is it? You may be longing for the parts of them you truly did love, even if they were cruel or mean to you, or irresponsible with your emotions.
So how do you pick yourself up and let your heart open to someone else ever again? Sometimes, it may feel as if the pain is going to go on forever, but in my experience as a Relationship Astrologer, you always heal and move on.
Sometimes, you just need a little bit of extra help in that process. There’s nothing wrong with using astrology to help you get there. In fact, astrology is one of the great tools you can use!
Over the years, I’ve put together my greatest tips that can speed up the process a little more and assist you in eventually, finding new love. Here they are:
7 Tips to Move on From A Breakup with A Gemini Man
1. Never Give in to His Games
Here’s the thing – Gemini men like to play games with your head. They can be master manipulators, sadly, and although not all are like this, many are capable. There’s a term – “gaslighting,” and it means that someone is always sowing seeds of doubt in your mind.
If you’re sure of something, for example – something you weren’t happy with in your relationship – and your Gemini ex convinces you otherwise – you may be being gaslighted. If you feel insecure, a little crazy, doubtful of yourself and your reality, it’s possible your head is being played with.
The best thing you can do, is never give into the verbal discussion arguments, and to simply disconnect.
2. Stop Talking
Because Gemini is an air sign, they just love, love, love to talk. Whether face to face, in some sort of instant messenger, or any other medium, these signs are very chatty!
Even when you’ve broken up, a Gemini may not see that it’s inappropriate to talk all the time. They need to understand that there are boundaries that should be respected. Engaging in constant conversation them is no way to move on!
You need to shut things down. Stop talking, stop texting and stop anything that encourages communication. Otherwise, you may just keep finding yourself in the same place you started. You’ll need to be strong, as the Gemini man can be very persuasive and sneaky with getting a word in!
3. Rotate Dates with New People
Even if you feel like your heart is aching, it can be great practice to start dating again. This doesn’t at all mean you have to get serious with anyone – you can simply enjoy the feeling of being desired!
In fact, if you’re open to it, why not try dating a few people at the same time, or at least, chatting to a few. Sometimes, just chatting can be the thing that you need to move on and to remember just how great you are! Plus, you can have a bit of much-needed fun in the meantime!
4. Avoid Overanalyzing It
Gemini is a sign that just loves to analyze everything. And it’s very easy for you to get caught up in that analyzing as well! You might find yourself overthinking the relationship and the breakup, picking apart all that went wrong.
Analyzing can be absolutely wonderful, but sometimes, it can be really destructive, too. There’s only so far that your understanding can go, before you hit a brick wall.
Maybe it’s time to switch your mind off (as best you can), and instead, start getting active, doing things that bring you joy and pleasure, and just finding ways to stop thinking so much.
5. Realize His Flaws
Most of us tend to long for the person we thought someone was, or the parts of them that were great. Much of the time, we also idealize who they were, and forget all the negative aspects of them that weren’t good for us.
This is totally normal, but can hinder your healing. It’s very important that you also realize his flaws, his difficult traits and not to gloss over the bad parts. For example, did you find him to be fickle? Always changing? Moody? Argumentative? Manipulative?
For now, fresh after a breakup, you can throw all your focus onto the hard-to-handle aspects so that you can move on faster. Once you have healed, you can remember the good things – without longing for him.
6. Avoid Drama and Gossip
Gemini may not always admit it, but they really love good gossip and a little bit of drama! In fact, some Gemini people like a lot of drama!
However, you don’t have to buy into it – remember that! You should stay far, far away from the ups and downs. Let the Gemini man swim in his own drama, and manage your own life. You don’t need that, ladies! Life is so much easier without all that negative energy!
Read next: 5 Turn-Offs That Make a Good Gemini Man Leave a Great Woman
7. Develop Your Own Interests
What’s the bet that your Gemini guys had a thousand interests? A million hobbies that he loved, and spent a lot of time on? Did you ever make the time to sharpen your own skills, too? Or did you join in on his to try and connect?
It’s very normal to merge with your partner and be just like them. However, you may have lost your individuality in the process. Now is the perfect opportunity to develop your own interests – new ones or old ones. Celebrate the things you love, and used to love! A new man will see that passion and be attracted to a woman who knows what she enjoys.
So – have you gone through a breakup with a Gemini man before? How did it go for you? Did you move on easily, or was it a huge challenge? Do you have any tips that helped you to let go of him and opened you up to new possibilities of love? Has your heart learnt to trust again?
Your stories are important to me, and I’d love to hear them!
If you’re going through a tough time and want to know you’re compatible with your Gemini guy, try my compatibility quiz:
I hope you heal soon and find someone wonderful; you deserve it!
Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,
Anna Kovach
