Do you find phrasing your thoughts to a Gemini to be difficult? Are you looking for better ways to communicate with him? What are the things you shouldn’t say to him?
We all know a Gemini, and we all know that they are a lot to handle at times! It’s hard to take in all the elements that they bring to the table at one time. As a Relationship Astrologer, I have assisted people in working with the Gemini’s energy. It is possible for all parties feel appreciated and seen!
I’ve found five phrases that are very triggering to the Gemini man. They make him mopey and upset to hear! It’s important to know what terms most trigger the Gemini’s defenses so you can tiptoe around them.
With this information, you’ll know what phrases to avoid and what to do instead of breaking the Gemini’s heart! Read on to see my five key terms that you should NEVER say to a Gemini man.
5 Things You Should NEVER Say To A Gemini Man
1. “You should talk less.”
The Gemini man is ruled by the planet Mercury. This makes him dynamic, changeable, intelligent, and communicative by nature. It isn’t a surprise that Gemini’s are the most talkative sign of the Zodiac. He gathers information from everywhere he goes and seeks to make connections between his peers with it.
Since communicating is so integral to his true nature, telling him that he should change is a massive slap in the face! Asking him to change this part of him is like asking him to be a whole different person. It’s an unacceptable request to make of the Gemini man.
You don’t want to deflate any human, much less one that you care about. If you are looking for the Gemini man to stop talking for a while, then that’s how you should phrase it. The emphasis here is on a while. The Gemini man gets that he’s talkative. He can handle a request to give you a little peace for a bit as long as it’s clear that it’s for now!
2. “You’ve got a lot to learn.”
When it comes to gathering information, the Gemini is a bit like a truffle-smelling pig. He gets down and dirty and takes his role as an information distributor very seriously. He sucks up information like a sponge with no problem! He does enjoy getting the deets on gossip in his friend group. Still, he also enjoys gathering new knowledge in general.
When you highlight how much the Gemini doesn’t know, it is an insult to him. He prioritizes intelligence. Thus, highlighting what he has yet to learn makes him feel defeated. It’s not a good idea to do this! He may not show you his genuine self after comments like this for fear of receiving judgement.
Instead of saying that he has a lot to learn, educate him on what he doesn’t yet know. This way, he’s engaged because he’s learning new information, and now he knows what you thought he was lacking. It’s a win-win!
3. “You’re not that funny.”
Gemini likes to keep the conversation light, and he has unmatched mental agility. This combination makes him a witty person. He enjoys making people laugh, and so he searches for the joke in every situation.
When you inform a Gemini man that you don’t appreciate his humor, it makes him feel like he can’t be himself around you. He will likely become bitter that you’d be so rude to him. As a result, he’ll either avoid hanging out with you or clam up and become sullen in your presence.
Rather than state out loud that you’re not appreciating his jokes, try not laughing or giving a small smile instead. The Gemini is good at social cues, so he will understand that it’s not your cup of tea. This avoids any awkward moments where you have to get blunt to get your point across.
4. “Are you ever going to grow up?”
Gemini’s ruler, Mercury, is the planet of youth. People with a strong Mercury (Gemini’s) tend to have a Peter Pan quality about them. In many ways, they’re forever young. This is reflected in their sense of humor as well as their sometimes immature take on life.
More mature people can become frustrated with this. It’s a difficult obstacle to get around in a relationship of any kind! Yet, Gemini likely doesn’t view his approach as immature. It’s so natural to him to have a superficial take on life that he’s not aware of how he is coming across.
A comment like this is very hurtful to the Gemini, who doesn’t know another way to be. He’s lighthearted, and you can’t knock him for that! I advise that you be kind but firm when you speak to a Gemini about his childlike approach. There is no need to crush his dreams when the point can be made in a kinder way.
5. “You’re annoying.”
Gemini men are full of energy and are super social. They’re perceived as irritating due to their nosiness, excessive talking, and know-it-all tendencies. They can be a lot to handle for more conservative signs! Earth signs especially seem to have a hard time wrapping their heads around Gemini.
If you find it hard to reconcile your differences with a Gemini, I advise changing your mindset. Instead of thinking of him as chatty, think of him as a good communicator. If you believe that they’re too flighty, consider that they’re hyper adaptable. There is always a better way to view things!
If you cannot understand the Gemini or where he’s coming from, consider separating yourself from him unless necessary. It sounds drastic, but some things about a Gemini you cannot ask him to change.
You are probably exasperated because I imagine you’ve been tempted to say one or two of these phrases before! I continue to encourage you to reframe how you view the Gemini man’s traits. Everything about him that bothers you could as be a strength if viewed from the right angle.
Remember, we all have things about us that we can’t change. Some traits are integral to our core personality. As a result, it is upsetting to hear when others call us out on things we cannot control. Don’t ask a Gemini to change what he can’t!
Have you ever said any of these five phrases to a Gemini? How did they react to it? Let us all know in the comments below!
Wishing you all the luck in the Universe,