Gemini men can be hard to read, and sometimes you just aren’t sure if he wants you back or if he’s just being nice. You also know he has varying moods, which makes him a bit confusing at times.
How can you know for sure he’s not into getting back together? Keep reading to learn seven signs your Gemini ex does not want you back. You may be surprised!
7 Signs Your Gemini Ex Doesn’t Want You Back
1. Communication Disintegrates
While many Gemini men will stay friends with an ex, they have limits. He keeps friends because some women will get a second consideration when he wants to make sure he’s not missing out.
The thing is, when he’s not into you or doesn’t want you back, he will likely not talk a whole lot to you because he doesn’t want you to think there is a chance with him.
He will back off on texts, email, social media, etc. He’ll respond to you but will probably not be very talkative. He’ll say one or two words in response. Where he used to be enthusiastic, he’s not anymore. You’re on standby, and that’s not a place you deserve to be.
It takes a lot for a Gemini to not want anything to do with someone, so he may not cut you off totally, but he will definitely pull back. I know this can make things more confusing.
After all, Gemini men change their minds often. As a general rule, though, if he’s ignoring you or being cold, you’re better off looking for someone else and leaving him alone.
2. Flaky Behavior
Gemini men can definitely come off as flaky. He makes plans that he never intends to carry out. Even if he does plan to, he changes his mind and does something else instead.
When he’s not interested in getting back together, he’s going to be very flaky with you. He will show you, intentionally or not, that he’s not someone you can rely on. If he’s giving you that sense, follow your instinct.
He has no business making plans and leaving you hanging, but unfortunately, he will. He will say, “Let’s get together soon,” but “soon” never seems to happen.
When he blows you off, you should realize it is just not happening between the two of you. He’s just wasting time and leading you on by not being honest. You’re better than that.
If you are still with your Gemini and he does this, he may be looking elsewhere or planning to break it off. Watch out and look at all the signs so you don’t get hurt.
3. He’s Not Truthful With You
The Gemini man may tell you something he doesn’t mean in order to make you feel better, but if he’s not into you, he’s full of it. He can be a scammer when it comes to emotions.
He may let you believe that he still cares for you and is still okay being friends, but really he’s looking for the escape hatch.
He knows he should be honest with you and tell you there is no chance at getting back together, but he feels he has to be the “good guy” and keeps you believing instead.
Gemini men can lie. It’s one of his worst traits, and of course it isn’t present in all Gemini men, but you have to face that some lie. He can lie about how he felt about you when you two were together, he can lie about the sex, he can lie about being friends, etc.
And if that is the case, then it means he doesn’t see a future with you.
4. He’s Distant and Aloof With You
Whether you are talking on the phone, texting, or emailing, he may act as though nothing bothers him and it’s no big deal. You may vent to him and he’ll just sort of blow it off.
Basically it’s like pulling teeth trying to talk to him. He’ll respond, but he doesn’t seem to be present in the moment.
He doesn’t engage in what you have to say, or he makes little of it. It’s his way of letting you know he’s not interested.
When you find yourself not getting much of a response out of him, or when he acts like what you’re saying is no biggie, it’s because he doesn’t really care and is likely trying to figure out how to get you to leave him alone.
It’s a good idea at that point to just go ahead and give him what he wants. Walk away and keep moving forward. You’ll find someone else who will be on your level.
5. He’s Anxious or Nervous
Another sign that a Gemini has no interest in getting back together is that he acts nervous or anxious around you. He may feel unsettled, and you can see it. He’s very obvious, though he doesn’t realize it.
He may keep checking his watch, spacing out, looking at anything but you, or he’ll have nothing to say when you ask him a question. He may say “I don’t know” or something equally emotionless.
This ties in with the aloof behavior. He has nothing to say of value or that will help you. He doesn’t want to connect with you. He’s counting the seconds until the interaction is over.
He never wants to be the bad guy, so for him, it’s best that you actually be the one to break it off and walk away.
6. He Vanishes All Together
This is the most painful route a Gemini man will take when you aren’t taking the hints he’s tried to put down for you. He will stop responding to you and ghost.
He will go out of his way to remove you from every facet of his life.
It’s even possible he may move if you two live in the same city. He might take on a new job, etc. Truly, if he sees you aren’t paying attention to his hints, he’s afraid you’re becoming a stalker.
This will make him very nervous and make him want to tie up all loose ends so that you cannot ever get in touch with him again. He thinks if he does this that you’ll see it for what it is and move on.
It’s extreme, but know that if he’s ghosted, it’s not just a phase. He’s over it.
Read next: Why a Gemini Man Would Ignore Your Text
7. He Tells You The Truth
The final sign—as obvious as it may seem—is that Gemini man actually tells you that he’s not interested in being anything more than friends ever again. It will take a lot to get him to this point.
I include this because some Zodiac signs will actually say this and not mean it. There are emotional nuances and communication issues that make some men break it off prematurely only to realize they were wrong.
That’s not Gemini.
He’d much rather lay down hints and hope you notice and leave him be. In the event that nothing has been working, he will probably tell you flat-out that there is nothing between you two anymore.
He may even go so far as to tell you there isn’t a friendship left either. Not many Gemini men come out with this harsh reality, but if he has tried other tactics that don’t seem to work, he may do this.
This will be when he’s had enough and you still keep calling him. He doesn’t want to have to change his whole life because you’re not getting the hint. That’s when he puts his foot down.
He will tell you outright that he has no intention of getting back together with you. Believe him. Move on and find someone who does want to be with you—and who actually deserves you! That’s not this guy.
Final Thoughts
Gemini men can seem very complicated. Yes, they are hard to read at times, but typically they do give you hints when they aren’t interested in being friend with you or anything else.
He sometimes will stay friends, but that doesn’t mean you have a chance at being with him again. Decide if you’re happy being just friends. If not, move on.
Finding out it’s truly over is extraordinarily painful, and it can be hard to face the facts. But you owe it to yourself to see things as they are—so you can move on to a relationship that’s truly fulfilling.
I bet you didn’t know that sexy, suave rock legend Prince was a Gemini. He was stunningly beautiful, but I bet women found him to be very confusing!
Did you lose a Gemini man and he made it clear he didn’t want you back? How did he let you know? Share your story (or questions) with our community in the comment section below. It’s anonymous!
Wishing you all the luck of the universe.
Your friend and relationship astrologer,
Anna Kovach
My Gemini man just abruptly ghosted me AND blocked me over a difference of how much money to spend. Yes indeedy, after months of the two of us intending to relocate to another state he lost in the final planning stages. “Sabotage” comes to mind. Too much detailed planning and financial accountability for him. I am a Capricorn but Fire sign dominant (!). Anyway, I’m saddened to lose him but glad I didn’t invest in the relocation. We’re both much older and you’d think wiser but I knew this match could end up to be too much of a challenge and ultimately incompatible. Maybe in the next life …
This is going to be long I apologize but I believe it’s a different scenario. Extremely confusing. I ended it with him. I was angry and I was mean. Not something I do ordinarily. He chased me for about 3 months. Called 2x a day. Made me laugh. I have a great job going to school. I am 64 he is 63. My bd is 6/28 his is 6/19. I gave him all the time he wanted needed. We also have known each other as friends for 40 yrs. But haven’t seen him in about 10. He was confusing constant up and down until I said I am too busy for this shit. Well, he stepped up his game and we or he decided we would see each other Monday and Thursday. He was great for another 6/8 weeks then forgot one Thursday. I am busy too. I’ve made it clear that do whatever just respect my time also. I texted and said forgetting something? It was my only day off. I spent the day doing something nice for him. He called. Hee had the chance to go to his camp he owns. He goes for relaxing. I get it. But I felt like I got punched in the stomach. I told him don’t call me anymore. Please just stay away from me. Haven’t heard a thing. Our relationship was great. I know he forgets things sometimes but I was furious he gave me no explanation. I wish I had just shut up and listened to him. He’s doing what I told him to do. Now, I don’t know how to get him back. I miss him like crazy. I don’t know what to do. It’s been no contact for 3 and a half weeks. Any suggestions?
Me and my Gem man have had an online friendship/relationship for a year and a half. Three weeks ago, we were very close and loving, lots of missing after just a few hours, and lots of romantic words. Then I got ill for a week and didn’t communicate much.
When I was back around and asked for his time, I reacted badly to one of his comments, and he went off on me, something I didn’t expect. It hurt badly, but even worse a few days later when he said that he couldn’t be bothered with my way of talking through our feelings. It was like a stab in the heart. I was sad and angry, but then took the high road and apologized to him for not being around, and for our previous interaction. I didn’t hear much from him that week as he was busy but let me know we’d talk soon. He didn’t acknowledge my nice words or offer a thank you or even his own apology.
This past week it seemed like thing were going fine, although with less interaction for him than usual, the usual being lots of messages, pictures, and videos. I am not getting that this week.
For some unknown reason, he’s been very quiet since Wednesday. I told him I’m afraid that if we don’t talk then our relationship would be in trouble. I made a video so he could hear me and the sense I was making. But instead of the warmth, understanding or acceptance I was expecting, I got cold shouldered. Now I am in agony.
I just wanted a little talk before I went away, but now I’m getting nothing. I’m in a lot of pain and fear the loss.
I read so many things online about how a Gem behaves and some of the advice is all over the place.
“Give him space, he’ll come back around” or “If you give him space, he will get disinterested and leave you.” It’s way too confusing.
All I can do is pretend it’s all ok in my last message then take the time for me. I have no idea what will happen. I just want my man back. But even if he does come back, I don’t know if well get back to the same loving place we were before.