How To Tell If A Gemini Man Is Playing You? 7 Signs He Is Just Using You

by Anna Kovach, relationship astrologer
How to tell if a Gemini man is playing you? Here are warning signs your Gemini man is just using you... Keep reading for more.

There are certain signs a Gemini man is just using you. These fickle men think they are clever, but with my knowledge, it is pretty easy to suss out how to tell a Gemini man is playing you!

Gemini men are very manipulative, unfortunately, and this makes it very easy for them to fool women into thinking they want something more than what they actually do. Gemini men often end up only playing women and leave them heartbroken. 

Do you suspect that a Gemini man might be playing you? Then you have come to the right place. In this article I am going to list all the signs a Gemini man is just using you and why do Geminis disappear.

Keep on reading to find out all the signs a Gemini man is playing you!

How To Tell If A Gemini Man Is Playing You?

Gemini men are by nature very fickle. Their sign is ruled by the planet Mercury which rules travel, communication, and thinking. And on top of this Gemini is an Air sign! Air signs are all about ideas! 

As you can tell, there is a lot going on in the mind of Gemini. This sign is very curious and gets FOMO very easily. He likes to keep his options open and date around as much as he can. 

You might be falling deeply in love with him, but little do you know he actually has 5 other women in his rotation going around. He is one of those people who can have his hands in many different pies.

Learn more about Gemini man mood swings here <<

The more the merrier in his opinion, but, how can you tell if a Gemini man is playing you? What are the signs? Once you’re finished with this article you will know all the tell-tale signs a Gemini man is using you:

7 Warning Signs A Gemini Man Is Just Using You

1. He’s A Sweet Talker

The Gemini man is a very smooth talking type of guy. He will tell a woman everything she could possibly want or need to hear in order to land her in the bedroom. [Discover more on what a Gemini man wants in bed  here <<]

He will tell her how beautiful or sexy she is doubled with how much she turns him on. He’ll kiss her hand, tell her funny jokes, and just seem like the perfect guy she’s always wanted.

When he’s had his fill though, he’ll suddenly do an about-face. That means that he stops talking sweetly; he starts answering quickly and seems to not express much emotion anymore.

It’s like the man she thought he suddenly disappeared and she’s left with a guy who could care less. He becomes distant, reserved, and seems to not have much time anymore for the very same woman that he professed to care for.

Gemini man should consider telling any woman upfront that he’s only in it for sex if that is his intention. It would save everyone time. However, he is fearful that she won’t give him what he wants and therefore he tries to smooth talk her instead.

Related: Pros And Cons Of Being Friends With Benefits With A Gemini Man

2. You Rarely See Him

After you’ve gotten somewhat involved with a Gemini man, you’ll be able to determine whether or not he’s in it for the long-term or not quite easily. If he’s figure out or decided you’re not the one, he’ll simply disappear.

He will stop calling you, stop answering your calls, stop texting or messaging you via social media, and will seem as though he never existed. Some will block a woman from all forms of communication.

Here’s what to do when a Gemini man ignores your texts <<

There are some Gemini men that will actually tell a woman that it’s not going anywhere but for many Gemini men, they just pull the disappearing act. They will stop spending time with the woman or will avoid getting together at all.

Gemini men pretty much know fairly quickly whether they want to invest their time in someone or not. He may bed her well and more than once but if he isn’t in love or doesn’t feel that spark, he’ll pull himself out of the picture spending less and less time with her if any at all.

Also when a Gemini man disappears then you know he’s not interested. He’s showing you that he’s just not into it and doesn’t find you to be someone he wants to be with.

Any man that really cares for you is going to give you their time and they will do everything they can to get to know you. This is a normal process. If your guy isn’t doing this, then your Gemini man is playing you.

Related: Why Are Gemini Men So Hot And Cold? << find out here

3. He Is Flakey

Gemini man never wants to look like the bad guy so he may not always be honest about his intention. He’ll use that smooth talk I mentioned, get a woman into bed, and then ghost her.

He becomes one of the flakiest people you could ever encounter. He doesn’t like to be confronted about what he’s doing or how he’s feeling. When a woman asks him flat out what he wants or how he feels, he clams up.

He’ll tell her he isn’t sure and needs time. However, he’s got no intention on settling down with her. He likely has other women “on the line” that he’s also playing with and isn’t ready to make a choice.

If a woman confronts him, he will back off and try to change the subject. He doesn’t like emotional ordeals and certainly doesn’t want to answer questions he is asked because, in his mind, he isn’t serious anyway.

When he’s being all smooth and avoiding topics you want to discuss with him then this is one of the signs a Gemini man doesn’t like you.

If you have had enough dealing with his going hot and cold behavior, I strongly recommend checking out my 30-day Gemini Man Love Challenge… It will set you on the right path with your Gemini guy.

4. Never Takes You Anywhere

Gemini men are up for adventure and lots of excitement. If you find that he’s sleeping with you and spending time here and there but never seems to want to take you out, he’s not with you.

When a Gemini man is investing his time or heart into a woman, he wants to take her out to do really fun things. Hanging out at the house and watching Netflix doesn’t qualify.

If he’s always inviting you over but you never go anywhere, beware! There is something not right and you should be worried. By him never taking you out it’s a huge sign that he’s not seeing you as a girlfriend.

He may also not take well to you spontaneously showing up at his place without having called first. The reason why is because he may be juggling women and doesn’t want to get caught. It would ruin his rep and ruin his bank of women.

Bottom line, you won’t be going anywhere when a Gemini man not interested. You’ll hang out at his place or maybe at yours but going out is a big NO. This is a red flag for you.

Something else is when a Gemini man disappears. Not taking you anywhere and yet remaining active by himself, he’s showing you that he lacks the desire to be in a relationship with you.

5. Calls You Another Woman’s Name

Single Gemini men like to have a variety to satisfy their diverse taste. That means he will often see more than one woman at a time. This can cause confusion if he is juggling too many.

If he ever calls you by another woman’s name mistakenly, he’s definitely playing you. It means he’s seeing more than one woman including you. He obviously isn’t good at concealing it and is full on busting himself by calling another woman’s name.

This is one of the most obvious signs there is really. He should never call you by anyone else’s name… EVER! There are cases where someone will accidentally do so but normally it’s during a fight.

When it happens during sex though, ouch! It’s hurtful and it’s awful and it definitely means he’s not in a relationship with you. He’s using you for sex and anything else he can get from you while the getting is good. You’re going to need to go ahead and break it off.

This is one of the very worst signs a Gemini man doesn’t like you. This is unforgivable really. Will you let this slide? I wouldn’t! If he really cares for you then he won’t make this mistake.

Give him what for and then move on. Naturally, if it is an innocent mistake perhaps you can forgive him but typically it’s not something a woman will let go of. It’s ammunition for later retribution possibly.

Related: Are Gemini Men Faithful In Relationships Or Do They Cheat? << find out here

6. Conversation Is All Surface Level

Some might say that Gemini men aren’t very deep at all because all they seem to talk about is very surface level, but the truth is, when you get to know a Gemini man very well, he can actually be very deep. 

If a Gemini man is committed to you, he will open up to you and go very deep. He will actually be vulnerable with you and share his inner truth with you. However, if he isn’t serious about you, you’ll never see this side of him. 

You’ll even notice that when you bring up deeper subjects in the conversations with him, that he will do absolutely everything in his power to deflect and avoid talking about these things. 

He’ll quickly change the subject to some gossip about a friend or even as blase as the weather. If he doesn’t want to show you his deeper side, you are likely being played by him. 

You can try to test him and see if he will take the bait when you bring up a deeper topic in conversation, but if you notice he is being evasive it is because he doesn’t want to go deeper with you. This is just a surface-level relationship to him.

7. He Takes Ages To Respond To Your Texts

Gemini men love to have their fingers on the pulse when it comes to communication. They are always chatting with someone about something on some device and platform. 

Being connected is their absolute favorite thing to do in the world. They want to be in constant contact with people, especially so when they are seeing a woman they really like. 

One of the most significant signs a Gemini man is playing you is when he takes forever to respond to your texts. This shows he is distracted and not really invested in you for real. 

He might reach out to you when he is lonely or when he isn’t getting his desired attention elsewhere. You can depend on a Gemini man to communicate with you when he is really into you. 

So if he isn’t, or is really inconsistent then this is one of the greatest signs a Gemini man is playing you. If he was more serious he would put in the effort to respond to your texts in a timely manner and not ghost you.

Learn how to get your ice-cold Gemini man to text you back <<

Gemini Man Ghosted Me — 4 Reasons Why Would A Gemini Man Ghost You

1. He Is Bored 

A Gemini man is very quick to get bored. One moment he is super into something or someone, and the next he might feel like he has learned everything he can and moves on to the next thing or person.

His curiosity often gets the better of him and he ends up using women or playing them, despite totally unintentionally at times. However, when a Gemini man is bored, there is really nothing to stop him from hopping on to the next. 

He is actually quite honest about this aspect of his personality and will let you know that he tends to get bored very easily. Even if at the time he seems totally engrossed in you or the hobby he is currently invested in. 

And when he gets bored he is naturally inclined to want to disappear and ghost. A Gemini man can be a little immature and not know how to cope with emotions and this is why he would rather avoid conflict than tell you that he wants to move on. 

2. He Is Unsure

A Gemini man might be a little uncertain about the way he feels about you and not know how to respond to your energy. You might have said something to him that he is uncertain how to reply to. 

Maybe he realizes that you have more expectations of him than what he is willing to give you and perhaps he just doesn’t want to hurt your feelings by telling you no. It is easier for him to ghost you. 

3. He Is Not Interested In You

A Gemini man loves connections and knowing many people. This is what adds to his life in the best way possible, and perhaps when he first got to know you he thought that there was more potential there. 

However, as you both have gotten to know each other it is likely that he may have come to realize that there is actually very little the two of you have in common. 

And instead of hurting your feelings directly, he might choose to ghost you instead because this is simply the easier option, although it is definitely the more cowardly route to take.

A Gemini man ghosting is really not uncommon and this often has to do with his maturity levels and how much empathy he has for others.

Read next: How To Make A Gemini Man Regret Losing You (Most Effective Ways)

4. He Isn’t Ready For A Serious Commitment

A Gemini man can be a bit of a casanova and most of them often have Peter Pan syndrome as they love to stay young and not have many responsibilities. Serious relationships freak the Gemini man out.

He might need some space from you if the pressure is on for him to commit, and this might be why he is ghosting you. Have you made it clear to him that you want to be in a relationship with him? 

This might be the reason why he has pulled away, he might just have wanted something a little more casual and now you are coming to him with all these feelings. 

This is just his process and if you believe there is something special between the two of you, then you can give him some space to come around.

Learn more important things about Gemini man commitment here <<

Why Do Geminis Disappear? And Do They Come Back After Disappearing?

Gemini men disappear because this is simply their nature. They get distracted very easily and they struggle to keep attention on one specific thing, even when there is a person involved. 

They want to experience everything at least once, and when they think they have had enough of one thing, they just jump onto the next, and the next, and the next. There are of course exceptions, like Gemini men who have planets in Gemini or Cancer perhaps. 

Gemini men who have a majority of Gemini placements tend to disappear and never come back, while the ones who have Gemini or Cancer tend to be a little more stable and will always return back, especially if they felt a strong connection with you!

It all depends on the Gemini man in general and what he is like, and of course, the relationship and connection you have with him. 

Another thing to note, Gemini men are ruled by the planet Mercury, so when Mercury Retrograde comes around it usually affects them more than most. And this is often when they slow down and re-evaluate their choices and this is when they tend to make a reappearance.

So watch out for when Mercury Retrograde comes around <<

Gemini Man Disappears And Comes Back — Now What?

If a Gemini man disappears and comes back, then the ball is firmly in your court. This means he definitely feels something for you, or at the very least, is intrigued by you. 

You have played your cards right as this rarely happens. When a Gemini has disappeared, it is usually quite rare for them to make a reappearance, unless it’s say Mercury Retrograde or he really misses you because of your strong connection!

The question is, what do YOU want to do? Are you interested in reconnecting with him and having him in your life? Or, are you over his inconsistencies? This is really up to you!

Feel it out, and listen to what he has to say. If you feel okay with the excuse he gave as to why he disappeared then you can try him on for size to see if things are going to move in the direction you want. You’re the one with the power now!


Are Gemini Men Players?

Out of all the signs, I would have to say that the Gemini men are one of the most likely to be a player. Unfortunately, these guys tend to be very inconsistent in their relationships. 

Commitment can be a real struggle for a Gemini man as they are always looking for someone more exciting than the current partner they have because in their mind the grass is always greener. 

This is why Gemini men usually have a couple of women in their lives simultaneously. He is definitely a player, so if you are involved with a Gemini man, be cautious and know what you are getting yourself into!

Why Gemini Men Suddenly Disappear When Everything Seems To Be Going Well?

Intimacy and getting deep in a relationship is quite a challenging thing for a Gemini man. They are simply not built this why, so once they start feeling real feelings for a woman, they tend to run away. 

Geminis tend to rather want to experience variety than true intimacy with another person. They like to keep their relationships surface level as emotions aren’t really something they understand. 

This isn’t something you should take personally as this is solely a reflection on him. 

Does Your Gemini Man Become Distant After Intimacy?

Does your Gemini man pull away or get quiet when you’ve just had a deep emotional connection? Have you felt confused by your Gemini’s hot and cold behavior?

If so, then he might have an avoidant attachment style. He could be Dismissive Avoidant and completely terrified of commitment… Or he could be Fearful Avoidant and REALLY want commitment… But get scared when he feels himself getting closer to you.

If he has either one of these attachment styles, you’re going to end up feeling extremely confused at times. And both are caused by childhood trauma.

When you can see the scared little boy inside him that had to shut down his feelings if he’s dismissive avoidant… Or have a parent not provide his needs consistently if he’s fearful avoidant…

It can make it easier to have empathy and compassion for his confusing and frustrating behavior. 

But that won’t fix it.

And while advice on attachment styles can be helpful… What you really need to stop this frustrating hot and cold cycle is to understand him better.

Thankfully, there is a simple system to TRULY understand how he ticks based on his astrology <<

It will stop him from pulling back when you begin feeling closer. And it will accomplish this in only 30 days.

So no more crying yourself to sleep when he pulls back… No more feeling incredibly confused. And no more wondering what in the heck is going on with him…

Even if he has an avoidant attachment style.

Go here now to turn things around with your Gemini man in 30 days or less.

xoxo, Anna

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7 thoughts on “How To Tell If A Gemini Man Is Playing You? 7 Signs He Is Just Using You

  1. I’ve got a Taurus on the Gemini cusp, venus Taurus. He’s 46. I’m a pisces, venus pisces. 52. He gives me Taurus signals one day, and Gemini for the the next week. I thought we were good til an aries woman, 52, Venus Taurus popped up with her jet ski water exploration pictures on FB. now I feel like I’m just one in a harem.

    How can I be special to him in this scenario?

    1. Hi Miranda!

      Alright if his Venus is Taurus then that’s the type of woman that’s best for him. Someone who has Taurus like qualities and traits or another earth sign in general. Your Venus being Pisces tells what type of lover you are which is caring, tender, and erotic. The cusp does make him a bit more of a mixture. He definitely has qualities of both. If he’s showing interest in a Venus Taurus, it make sense for him astrologically. However, if you want to be special to him, you’ve got to actually talk to him, tell him how you feel, and what you want. Then ask him for the same. He will let you know if he’s on the same page or if he thinks he’d do better with someone else.

  2. I am dating a gemini man and am very confused. He doesn’t take me out ever because he has his kid during the day and later in the night when he gets picked up he invites me over but by than he is already tired. he does spend time with me and opens up his feelings is very loving, affectionate and emotionally invested, it does not always lead to sex more times than not we just bond and talk about everything including his feelings for me. he will call and text me all the time throughout the day everyday and he will bring me sometimes around his family or friends.he talks about a future but than seems to hold back when that time gets closer. he keeps me private in regards to letting the world know about details of our relashionship and away from his son and ex. im just confused on why

  3. So I have a huge issue with a Gemini man. I met him when I was 19 and he was 27. We dated off and on for years. I got frustrated and moved on with my life because I didn’t feel like I was important to him. I married another man and was with him 12 years. This Gemini man contacted me every 6 to 12 months just to see how I was doing, so he said. He married someone else as well and has been married about 7 years. After I filed for divorce he contacted me telling me he missed me and loved me and wanted to be with me. He said he is leaving his wife. We have been talking for about 4 months. We live a thousand miles apart. He has even went as far as telling me I’m his sole mate and he is always drawn back to me but he hasn’t left her yet. I should also tell you I am a Gemini. He keeps telling me to be patient. He has to work out the details because he doesn’t want to loose everything and he has to save up some money. Although he has been a player in the past I am and have always been totally in love with him. I’m trying to have patience but it is not my strong suite and was wondering if you could give me some advice?

  4. My ex who is a Gemini (I am a Sagittarius) has unblocked me after 5 weeks of being blocked.
    Is this Mercury retrograde doing its thing? What would you suggest I do wait to see if he messages me?

    1. We are on same page girls, im sagittarius woman and gemini ex. He didn’t want me call him, and late reply message. After i break up with him, he begging me for a second chance

  5. Moi, je suis balance et nous sommes sensés très bien nous entendre, mais je l’ai envoyé promener il y a 15 jours à cause d’une autre femme, une de ses anciennes conquêtes.
    Il n’a absolument pas réagi, pas d’appel, pas de message, il doitêtreen train de roucouler !

    En fait il en avait rien à faire de moi !
    Quelle tristesse de se tromper à ce point !

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