Gemini men, I am sure you have heard a thing or two about these gentlemen. How confusing they are, how one minute they are up and down, that they can be fickle, and that it is tough to make these men commit to a woman.
Sounds like a bit of a nightmare! But does it have to be? Absolutely not! There are many Gemini men who are perfectly capable of settling down and having healthy relationships with the women they are with.
However, it is a good idea for you to be well prepared and know what you are getting yourself into when you first start seeing a Gemini man. You need as many weapons in your arsenal to make this relationship a success.
Keep on reading to find out more about these interesting guys and what exactly you can do to make your relationship with a Gemini as successful and long-lasting as you possibly can.
Most Common Reasons Why Relationships With Gemini Men Fail
There are a plethora of reasons why relationships with Gemini men tend to fail, sometimes it is just one of the reasons, and sometimes it is a combination of a few things all put together. You might want to familiarize yourself with these reasons before getting involved with a Gemini man.
1. He Gets Bored Very Easily
Gemini is a sign of duality, it is fast-paced and Gemini individuals tend to struggle to keep focused on one thing. In a relationship, this can be pretty terrible because no matter what you try, a Gemini man is going to get bored and look for variety.
And when he starts to feel restless, he tends to look for his way out with another person. Unfortunately, Gemini men have a rap for not being faithful, and this is why I always think that these guys would be better suited to having an open relationship – but of course, this isn’t for everyone.
2. He Isn’t Open With His Feelings
One of the big annoyances my clients seem to have when they date a Gemini man is that he tends to be quite guarded with his feelings. It is almost as if he lacks a certain amount of empathy for others.
Women love to connect on an emotional level with their partners, but a Gemini man can make this quite difficult. These guys are very logical and rational and they have a really hard time processing emotions, but they have an especially hard time processing the emotions of others.
He just doesn’t operate emotionally and has a really tough time being vulnerable. Of course, this doesn’t mean he doesn’t have emotions. He just chooses not to share it with anyone.
He has his own way of processing things, and if you put pressure on him to share, he may not like that very much and it could be the start of the end of your relationship.
3. He is Quite Disorganized
If you suspect that your Gemini man has a slight case of ADHD, then you are definitely not wrong. It is so hard for these guys to stay focused on one thing at a time. They have a million cylinders firing at once and because of this, it can make him quite disorganized.
His life may be a little messy, and this may drive you up the wall. He has an inability to stick to anything or to follow a plan, so it can make him really unreliable and this is one of the reasons why his relationships might fail.
4. He Is Overpowering In Conversation
One thing you probably realize about your Gemini man is that he likes to talk, and he likes to talk a lot. This can be fun and interesting, sure. But he might have a tendency to talk over you and not listen to what you have to say.
This can be quite isolating and you may feel like you are giving a lot of your energy by having to listen to him all the time, yet he is never present or focused when you have something to say. This may very well be the cause of a lot of conflicts and because of this, it can cause his relationships to fail.
5. He Tends To Lie A Lot
Gemini men are great storytellers but unfortunately, with this comes a tendency to fib or tell white lies. He’ll just embellish certain things for dramatic impact sometimes or he might just feel like lying because he is bored.
You may often catch him in these inconsistencies and because of this, it can be hard to be in a relationship with him because it isn’t easy to trust someone who isn’t honest. He might think his white lies are harmless, but they can actually do quite a lot of harm to your relationship. No wonder things don’t tend to work out for him romantically.
6. He Is A Gossip
A Gemini man loves to talk a lot of nonsense and when there is drama, he definitely wants to share it with the world. He has no trouble speaking badly about someone behind their back and this is where his reputation comes from for being two-faced.
He may have the poor habit of bad-mouthing you behind your back to his friends when things aren’t going well in the relationship. This can be really hurtful when you hear what he has said and this is a big reason why his relationships don’t work out. He can’t seem to keep the drama IN the relationship.
7. He Is Too Distracted To Give You Attention
When you first start dating a Gemini man, you might really adore how fascinating and interesting this guy seems to be. He has so many hobbies and is unlike anyone you have ever met. There is almost nothing he can’t talk about.
But the closer you get to him, the more you will realize that he barely has any time to give you much attention. He is always doing other stuff and might not make you too much of a priority in his life. This can be bad news, especially if you are a woman who needs a lot of affirmation from her partner.
Something To Remember
Relationships take a lot of work and it has to be equal from both sides. I want you to remember that not all Gemini behave in this way, this usually comes from the unevolved types who haven’t done the work and who aren’t ready to be in a relationship.
It is very possible for a Gemini man to have a healthy and fulfilling relationship, but this means that both of you are going to have to work on it, understand your individual boundaries, and find a way to balance things in the relationship.
If the relationship matters for the both of you then there is always a way to make it work. Just put in the effort and you can definitely succeed in having a healthy and stable relationship with your Gemini man.
Remember, if a relationship fails, it isn’t just because of one person; the two of you are co-creating your existence together. This is why it is so important for you to recognize your Gemini man’s faults because if you understand him then you can change your behavior to how you respond to his actions.
How To Handle A Gemini Man’s Dual Nature
A Gemini man is a complicated soul. He is very dualistic in nature and this is the reason why he is so extremely dynamic and complex. This is probably the reason why you find him so appealing because he is unlike anyone you have ever met.
He can be so many different people at the same time, and this is what makes him so fascinating. Life with a Gemini man certainly isn’t boring, but this means you are going to have to keep up with him.
This man hates boredom, so if you are in a relationship with a Gemini man, the only way to handle this is to be interesting and intriguing yourself. You need to be full of surprises to keep your Gemini interested in you.
You’ve got to get to know both sides of your guy. There are no ways around this. This will help you effectively to communicate with a Gemini man. If you do this then you’ll be very successful.
This may take some time but if you really care about your Gemini man, you’re going to want to know both sides of this guy. You’ll essentially be falling in love with two men if you think about it.
You can pretend that you live with two men and you have to accept both of them as they are. That may not be very easy to do but if you feel he’s worth it, you’ll need to do exactly this.
His moods change due to this dual nature. You could have the charming loving guy one day and then have the egotistical jerk guy the next. The thing is, they will both be loyal to you if you can accept them.
This is where you must make a decision on whether or not the Gemini guy is worth your time and effort. Once in love, the Gemini man is rather doting and the darker side of him becomes quiet temporarily.
It’s only temporary though, so at some point, the nasty side of him will emerge and you’ll have to be ready to deal with it and live with it. Chances are, these will be the times when you volunteer some alone time.
In fact, I highly recommend that you give him lots of free time every week. I don’t mean when he’s at work. I mean when he’s off and has time to burn. You can go hang out with your own friends or family. Maybe you can do something alone.
Either way, give him alone time. He’ll appreciate it and you may see less of the nasty side of him as the happy side will want to emerge to thank you.
How To Confront A Gemini Man
When times are tough with your Gemini man and you want to confront him about his behavior you need to tread very carefully… This guy is fickle and will avoid confrontation like the plague. He just has so much better things to do in his life.
You have to be smart about it and be as analytical and logical as you possibly can be. Remember that your Gemini man is a bit of a problem solver, so perhaps you can approach the situation by asking him for his help.
This will bring down his defenses and make him a bit more proactive when it comes to the problems you are experiencing with him. Don’t confuse him, just stick to the facts and try your very best not to get your emotions involved in the situation because that is a sure-fire way to get him to run.
How To Communicate With Your Gemini Man
I’ve mentioned a bit on how to communicate with a Gemini man in the proper way but here’s a little more on that. You need to talk to him in a diplomatic manner. Don’t get overly emotional or dramatic. Keep things neutral, especially when you are on dates together. He wants to remember you for your fun and playfulness, not because of how heavy and emotionally driven you make the experience.
Talking to him requires a cool and calm head. If you are upset, try to chill yourself a bit first, and then you can proceed to talk to him. Get everything you want to say to him together before approaching him.
Letting things flow on the fly probably won’t go over very well. Write it down if you have to and then read it to him. At least it will be diplomatic and well thought out which is something he’ll understand.
He will relate to you much better by talking in a calm way and bringing logic where it can be implemented. His brain will latch onto it and be able to process a lot better.
How To Treat A Gemini Man In A Relationship
One of the most effective ways to have a nice balance with a Gemini man is by proper communication. That being said, you need to learn how to communicate with a Gemini man.
Some women are afraid to open up to their Gemini guy because they’re afraid he’ll shut down or leave. The truth is, when a Gemini man really likes you or has invested in you, he won’t leave that easily.
The ones that do are extreme and possibly immature. The Gemini man tries to be reasonable and when you open up to communicate with him, he will likely listen to what you have to say.
The best way to do it though is by trying to take emotion out of it. He isn’t the best at dealing with topics that are emotional. If you want to talk about your feelings with him, you can but try to be a bit detached when you do.
Some women do not know this and they go at a Gemini man emotionally and create an epic fail in the relationship. He responds badly and then she isn’t sure what to do anymore.
Just watch how you talk to him but DO make sure you talk to him. If you two aren’t talking, what is the point? Be honest with each other at every turn. To keep him honest, you should be honest.
How To Reconnect With A Gemini Man
This two-sided guy may seem rather complicated. I would really like to teach you how to treat a Gemini man. It may help you to salvage a relationship that might otherwise fail or not even get started. It’s really important to know how to handle a Gemini man. With that said, there are some things to think about and keep in mind when you’re dealing with a relationship with him.
It is normal for things to get a little boring in any relationship, especially if you have been together with someone for a while. However, boredom is a bit of a danger zone when it comes to a Gemini man.
If you want to reconnect with him you are going to have to spice things up and make it interesting again. Surprise him, shock him, do something totally unexpected and this man will come running back to you.
Plan something really exciting for the two of you to enjoy and vow to keep things interesting. He will really appreciate the effort you put into this and see that you are trying to make things work.
If you’re struggling with finding ways to reconnect with your Gemini man, then you need to check out the 21 Questions To Ask That Force a Gemini Share His True Feelings, And Become Emotionally Available. These questions will set you on the right track with your Gemini man and make you connected like never before.
The Extreme Situations You Might Find With A Gemini Man
Unfortunately, not all relationships are salvageable. I want you to remember that the suggestions I have mentioned above are only applicable if you experience more positive energy from your Gemini man than negative energy.
Sometimes it is just better to walk away from a toxic situation than to stick around and wait for it to improve. You are just so much more deserving than that. And no Gemini man is that wonderful. Know your boundaries and remember your self-respect.
Remember, the relationship is a two-way street. If your needs are feeling unmet then it might be better for you in the long-term to walk away respectfully and find someone who gives you what you deserve.
A Gemini man isn’t a super emotional person, this is just who he is. So, it can be kind of hard to spot if he is actually acting distant because he doesn’t like you because he is generally a detached person.
However, if a Gemini man isn’t making any effort with you whatsoever then I would cut my losses if I were you. Like if you reach out to him and his messages are short or a little rude then I wouldn’t even bother.
You are way too important to be treated like this.
But, if the two of you are a little more serious and you have discussed his emotional unavailability, then you might want to persevere and support him through this. Understand that this is a part of his personality and perhaps you can suggest that he goes to therapy.
The Gemini Man Won’t Leave Me Alone
Having a Gemini man obsessed with you is very dangerous territory. These guys can be a little bit intense and overwhelming at times, especially when they meet someone they really, really like.
You might take a liking to the attention he is giving you and feel really special because it feels great to be wanted by someone this much. However, this comes as a major warning, a Gemini man is VERY fickle.
He might give you all the attention you could ever desire right now, but tomorrow he will leave you like a hot potato for someone else. Don’t ever put your self-esteem and self-worth based on a Gemini man’s affection for you because this is extremely dangerous for your confidence.
But also, you might find that a Gemini man is making you uncomfortable because he is just SO keen and won’t leave you alone. The thing with a Gemini man is that once they find someone they are interested in, they can become quite obsessive and put all their attention on her.
The level of obsession is rather intense and it might even overstep the boundaries of what you are comfortable with. If you have told him to cool it and he just won’t listen, then this probably means that he doesn’t respect you very much.
You need to be with someone who listens to you and doesn’t make you feel uncomfortable.
Make a Gemini Man’s Heart Yours
You should never fully reveal yourself or your desires to the Gemini man. The more mysterious you are, the more stimulating you are because he’ll try to unravel the mystery that is you.
Try to come up with various types of activities or scenarios that you can try out in the bedroom or even just in general. The more excitement you can generate for him, the more into you he’ll be.
He’ll be grateful to have an open and adventurous partner. The last thing he wants is to have a partner who is never willing to do anything new and is happy being in a routine. That scares him!
Try to be spontaneous and open-minded to things he wants to try. You may surprise yourself and actually really enjoy it or yourself when you give it a shot. Open and up and see what your Gemini man can actually provide you.
I truly hope this helps you with how to deal with a Gemini man so that you can manifest a very successful long-lasting love with him. I hope this helps you in dealing with a Gemini man in the right way, darling.
So, it has been a while since you started dating your Gemini man.
You can still remember so clearly; exactly what it was like when the two of you first started dating.
He was enraptured by you, and totally obsessed, he couldn’t get his eyes or hands off of you…
And you could feel him becoming more and more smitten with you as time progressed…
The attraction between you two just kept on growing.
However, recently things between the two of you haven’t been feeling in sync…
It almost feels like your Gemini man has kind of lost interest in you and the relationship.
You feel like you have tried everything to get back his attention.
But the more you try, the faster he seems to want to push away.
If only he could look at you with the same kind of amazement and excitement as before…
And who is to say he can’t?
You may have thought you have tried everything to regain his affection.
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I broke up with a Gemini man a month go and he will not respond to my text messages. I have let him know that’s not what I want and that I love and miss him. Do I just give up and move on? We had been dating off and on for a year and a half. The break ups was he chose until this last and I broke up with him.
Wow how interesting . Hi I’m married to a Gemini and it’s already been 2 1/2 years now that we’ve been together an so far everything that I ve read is so amazing to find out about Geminis.. what I do know is that I love my husband an that he is the most mysterious and different an unique man I’ve met in my whole life .. it’s been a bumpy funny an verrrrrry interesting glide with him but what I’ve learned about him is that I’m very intrigued about learning more and as much as there is to know about him an him being a Gemini ♊️ so thank you for your blog dear blessings ??⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️♥️ Definitely reading more ♊️?
Hi Cynthia Ortega!
How wonderful that you love your husband the way you do. That is beautiful. Thank you so much for chiming in and telling me about it. Yes, there is still always to learn about the mysterious Gemini man and I say this as a Gemini woman. We love being mysterious to everyone. If you really want to learn more than just from the blog articles then you might want to check out my books on Gemini Man Secrets. Thank you for reading!
i’m dating a gemini as a scorpio (we are both 17) we have been dating for over a year. i find that we need to work on our communication and learn how to communicate to eachother better. does anyone have any tips on how to approach fights, arguments, talking about feelings etc. in a better way? he usually doesn’t talk about his feelings and i’ve gradually gotten him to open up but we still need to work on things together. this man was put into my life for a reason and i believe it. i want to make this relationship as good as it can be and see if i marry him ?
Hi Megan!
Yes communication can be a real hard thing to do between Scorpio and Gemini. It’s not impossible but it’s hard. If you both love each other then you can absolutely work on it together. Both of you have to be invested and really appreciate each other. I’m glad to hear you’ve gotten him to open up but he needs to open up even more if he wants it last with you. Don’t give him up if you see marrying him. Try to learn all you can about him. In fact, you should check out my books on Gemini Man Secrets to discover more.
My daughter is a libra 17! And her bf is Gemini 18 dated for a year and it was wonderful until the last month or so ago he started to get distant and she did nothing to him but be the best sweetest most supportive gf , he said he didnt know why but his feelings have changed basically lost feelings and her heart is broken