Do you find phrasing your thoughts to a Gemini to be difficult? Are you looking for better ways to communicate with him, and what not to say to a Gemini man?
We all know a Gemini, and we all know that they are a lot to handle at times! It’s hard to take in all the elements that they bring to the table at once. As a relationship astrologer, I have assisted people in working with Gemini’s energy. It is possible for all parties to feel appreciated and seen!
I’ve found seven phrases that are very triggering to the Gemini man. They make him mopey and upset to hear! It’s important to know what terms most trigger Gemini’s defenses so you can tiptoe around them.
With this information, you’ll know what phrases to avoid and what to do instead of breaking Gemini’s heart! Read on to see seven key things that you should NEVER say to a Gemini man.
What Not To Say To A Gemini Man (7 Annoying Things)
When interacting with a Gemini man, it’s important to be mindful of how you communicate, as they can be quite intense and perceptive. Here are seven things you might want to avoid saying to a Gemini man to keep the relationship on good terms:
“You should talk less.”
The Gemini man is ruled by the planet Mercury. This makes him dynamic, changeable, intelligent, and communicative by nature. It isn’t a surprise that Gemini’s are the most talkative sign of the Zodiac. He gathers information from everywhere he goes and seeks to make connections between his peers with it.
Since communicating is so integral to his true nature, telling your Gemini that he should change is a massive slap in the face! Asking him to change this part of him is like asking him to be a whole different person.
It’s an unacceptable request to make of the Gemini man. You don’t want to deflate any human, much less one that you care about. If you are looking for the Gemini man to stop talking for a while, then that’s how you should phrase it.
The emphasis here is on a while. The Gemini man gets that he’s talkative. He can handle a request to give you a little peace for a bit as long as it’s clear that it’s for now!
“You’ve got a lot to learn.”
When it comes to gathering information, the Gemini is a bit like a truffle-smelling pig. He gets down and dirty and takes his role as an information distributor very seriously. He sucks up information like a sponge with no problem, and he does enjoy getting the deets on gossip in his friend group. Still, he also enjoys gathering new knowledge in general.
When you highlight how much the Gemini doesn’t know, it is an insult to him. He prioritizes intelligence. Thus, highlighting what he has yet to learn makes him feel defeated. It’s not a good idea to do this! He may not show you his genuine self after comments like this for fear of receiving judgment.
Instead of saying that he has a lot to learn, educate him on what he doesn’t yet know. This way, he’s engaged because he’s learning new information, and now he knows what you thought he was lacking. It’s a win-win!
“You’re not that funny.”
Gemini likes to keep the conversation light, and he has unmatched mental agility. This combination makes him a witty person. He enjoys making people laugh, and so he searches for the joke in every situation.
When you inform a Gemini man that you don’t appreciate his humor, it makes him feel like he can’t be himself around you. He will likely become bitter that you’d be so rude to him. As a result, he’ll either avoid hanging out with you or clam up and become sullen in your presence.
Rather than state out loud that you’re not appreciating his jokes, try not laughing or giving a small smile instead. The Gemini is good at social cues, so he will understand that it’s not your cup of tea. This avoids any awkward moments where you have to get blunt to get your point across.
“Are you ever going to grow up?”
Gemini’s ruler, Mercury, is the planet of youth. People with a strong Mercury (Gemini’s) tend to have a Peter Pan quality about them. In many ways, they’re forever young. This is reflected in their sense of humor as well as their sometimes immature take on life.
More mature people can become frustrated with this. It’s a difficult obstacle to get around in a relationship of any kind! Yet, Gemini likely doesn’t view his approach as immature. It’s so natural to him to have a superficial take on life that he’s not aware of how he is coming across.
A comment like this is very hurtful to the Gemini, who doesn’t know another way to be. He’s lighthearted, and you can’t knock him for that! I advise that you be kind but firm when you speak to a Gemini about his childlike approach. There is no need to crush his dreams when the point can be made in a kinder way.
“You’re annoying.”
Gemini men are full of energy and are super social. They’re perceived as irritating due to their nosiness, excessive talking, and know-it-all tendencies. They can be a lot to handle for more conservative signs! Earth signs especially seem to have a hard time wrapping their heads around Gemini.
If you find it hard to reconcile your differences with a Gemini, I advise changing your mindset. Instead of thinking of him as chatty, think of him as a good communicator. If you believe that they’re too flighty, consider that they’re hyper adaptable. There is always a better way to view things!
If you cannot understand the Gemini or where he’s coming from, consider separating yourself from him unless necessary. It sounds drastic, but some things about a Gemini you cannot ask him to change.
You may also want to read: 11 Questions To Ask A Gemini Man To Spark His Interest
“Stop overthinking everything.”
The Gemini man’s mind is brilliant. He can process information like nobody else. Every choice he has, he ponders over intensely. He hates making mistakes and would rather make the right decision the first time around.
However, he lacks methodical analysis and this can lead to incorrect assumptions, he can quickly change his mind. He has quick reflexes physically because of the neurons that are firing rapidly in his brain. He can also be under a lot of stress because he is rapidly processing information.
This can make him act a little obsessively in the search for knowledge. He needs to know absolutely everything about a particular subject, and you will find him consumed and compulsively researching.
If you make a comment about this, you might meet a furious Gemini. Saying to him he shouldn’t overthink will not help in any way. A more productive course of action would be for you to go through his list with him and weigh in on his options.
”Did you change your mind?”
Please note that Gemini men are dual in nature, so I wouldn’t expect anything less from them. Sometimes they are carefree and playful; other times they are a bit pragmatic and restrained, but their decision-making process is never final.
Whenever a Gemini man makes a decision, it could happen that he changes his mind. He needs to decide on his own and hates when you need to question his choices.
You can expect him to change his mind a lot, and I know this could become really exhausting for you, so you’ll never know where you stand with him. He dislikes this phrase because it reminds him of his inconsistency.
Read also: How To Get A Gemini Man To Open Up Emotionally (7 Ways)
7 Phrases You Should Never Say To A Gemini Man You Love
Here are more things to never say to a Gemini man you love:
- “Why are you never serious.” – This can imply that his superficial nature is a problem, which can be very insulting.
- “You are being mean.” – Gemini man prides himself on making inappropriate jokes, and a comment like this can offend him in a way.
- “Are you able to focus on a second?” – While Gemini man cannot direct his attention for too long, telling him he is not focused could trigger some inappropriate feedback.
- “It’s not a big deal.” – Minimizing something that he cares deeply about can invalidate his feelings and make him feel like his feelings aren’t valid.
- “Why can you forgive and forget?” – Gemini man often doesn’t have strong memories and emotions, and being amazed how he is not controlled by the events of the past may make him think he is not an ordinary person.
- “Are you sure you can handle it.” – Although Gemini man feels like he lacks control, stating it negatively can seem critical of their actual qualities.
- “Everyone else thinks so, too.” – Grouping him with “everyone else” undermines his need to be seen and respected as an individual.
Watch the video below to get some more insights on what a Gemini man really hates to hear:
Tips On How To Communicate Better With Your Gemini Man
When things get a little rocky and you find yourself feeling upset, remember that talking to your Gemini man is all about creating a vibe of trust and openness. Imagine the two of you are in this cozy, safe bubble where you can share your thoughts freely.
Kick off the convo with some genuine honesty – think of it like putting your heart on the table but in a nice, neat package. Let him in on what’s bugging you, but keep the tone as soothing as an acoustic serenade.
Details matter, so paint the picture clearly enough for him to follow. No need to throw in any plot twists; just give him the real deal about what’s stirred up the storm in your teacup.
And hey, it’s a two-way street; give him the stage to share his side too, because he might just have some insights that could turn the tide. Personal space is a biggie, especially when emotions are running high.
Steer clear from the public eye and pick a private spot where you both can talk without an audience. And when it comes to his feelings, be ready to put on your scuba gear and dive deep.
You are probably exasperated because I imagine you’ve been tempted to say one or two of these phrases before! I continue to encourage you to reframe how you view the Gemini man’s traits. Everything about him that bothers you could be a strength if viewed from the right angle.
Remember, we all have things about us that we can’t change. Some traits are integral to our core personality. As a result, it is upsetting to hear when others call us out on things we cannot control. Don’t ask a Gemini to change what he can’t!
No More Sleepless Nights About Your Gemini Man
It can be SO painful to worry about how to make things work with a Gemini man who won’t commit.
I know. I’ve been there with many of my friends dating Gemini guys.
I remember my very close friend crying herself to sleep at night, worried that her man would never commit to her. She lost sleep, time, and even work hours, all because she couldn’t figure out how to capture his heart and get him to commit.
As a friend, it was hard to watch her go through that. But I knew how good he was for her, and I didn’t want her to give up on him.
Even when our other friends were telling her to move on, I could see that he was the most incredible man she had ever met.
How could she just give up on that?
But it wasn’t easy. It took a LOT of work.
She had to learn how to speak a different language… his love language.
And it worked!!
So if you are ready to sleep like a baby… Knowing your Gemini man is MADLY in love with you… And never feel anxious about him again…
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Sending you love,
Your sister and relationship astrologer,
Anna Kovach
